If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading.

The simple answer to this question is “yes”. Scripture is filled with people whose past deeds have been forgiven. The deeper concerns with such a question is “Have you repented and changed?”. Although forgiveness is available, it requires that you be willing to change. You can not expect forgiveness is you have not changed or have any intention of changing. Your spouse will look at what you do, how you think and your attitude. If they do not see changes in any of those areas, the likelihood of forgiveness is minimal.

The next deep concern behind such a question concerns the effects of the affair. Although the act can be forgiven, you will still need to deal with the consequences. Scripture points out that a person guilty of adultery obtains a stain that will never go away (See Proverbs 6:32-33: But whoso committeth adultery with a woman lacketh understanding: he tht doeth it destroyeth his own soul. A wound and dishonor shell he get: and his reproach shall not be wiped away). Yes they are still forgiven, yet they will need to come to grips with the consequences and fallout from their actions. Many times people banter around the word ‘forgiveness’, yet what they are seeking is a mixture of exoneration and pardon. They want to be free from the affair and the associated burdens, even those related to the consequences. The possibility of that happening is non-existent.

If you are one of those seeking forgiveness, it is imperative to be honest with yourself about what you are seeking and what it means. Misusing words and confusing their meanings will leave your spouse feeling like you have lied to them again.

Affairs can be forgiven, the consequences can not. Forgiveness carries with it the responsibility of changing you behaviors and attitudes.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

If you enjoyed this post, make sure you subscribe to my RSS feed!