Archive for June, 2007
The simple answer to this question is “yes”. Scripture is filled with people whose past deeds have been forgiven. The deeper concerns with such a question is “Have you repented and changed?”. Although forgiveness is available, it requires that you be willing to change. You can not expect forgiveness is you have not changed or […]
Music carries with it many dangers. This is especially true for those in your situation. Songs can stir feelings within you that you may not have otherwise have. When a person sings a song repeatedly over and over, the words of that song work their way into the persons heart. This is where it gets […]
In recovering from an affair, questions arise concerning what you should do. With the many options available, a question that will help you is to consider, “Do I fix the problem or the symptom?” To illustrate this, let us first consider car problems. Recently when our car was overheating, we were faced with the question, […]
In overcoming an affair, there are many questions concerning time. Time is an issue of great importance. Questions arise as to “How long should I give them?”, “How long will it take?” “When will things get better?” and “When will it be over?”. All of these are valid questions. My experience is that each situation […]
If you have been following the blog, the issue of the intimacy dance is what has been addressed. In changing the steps or patterns of the dance, there are several things that you can do to intentionally change things.
1. Change the tempo-You can change how fast or how slow things happen. If the interaction between […]
If you realized that you and your spouse are caught in an intimacy dance, there are things you can do to change the behavior. Once you know that there is a dance, where the two of you maneuverer toward each other, but somehow keep missing intimacy, look for the patterns. Much like dances have steps, […]
One of the struggles which occurs in the aftermath of an affair is what I call ‘the intimacy dance’. This is when the two spouses go through the struggles to improve intimacy. In many cases, since they have never experienced intimacy or are scared of intimacy, there are a series of interactional games that transpire […]
Although common sense and Biblical teaching make it clear that marriage is good and efforts at saving it are also good, the courts disagree. http://worldnetdaily.com/news/article.asp?ARTICLE_ID=56013
It seems the court in Oakland, California has made the determination that use of the words “marriage” and “family values” are offensive and has taken steps to ban those terms. With […]
In the news this morning was an article addressing illicit affairs. http://news.scotsman.com/international.cfm?id=869842007
The cleric claims that having temporary marriages prevents affairs. If you are someone who values their relationship, and abides by a commitment to Christian beliefs, this is not a solution. This does nothing to improve the relationship. Such arrangements only allow sex without guilt. […]
Once acceptance has occurred, then you can begin with forgiveness. The reason for truth, then acceptance, then forgiveness is that you have to know what it is you are looking at forgiving. If you forgive before accepting the situation, there may be some unsettled issues that continue in the relationship. It also follows logically that […]
