Archive for August, 2007
A sad reality of human nature is that there are some people who will actively work toward the destruction of your marriage. Many of these persons present themselves as well intentioned, but their advice and actions are focused on the destruction of the marriage. During the aftermath of an affair we are very vulnerable. These […]
If you have been following this series of posts, I have been addressing what I have observed in working with some infidels. In the last post on the topic, I mentioned the danger of a passive mind. In reading further on the topic in some material by Eric Fromm, he notes that this passivity of […]
Here is a mug shot of Frank Sinatra. He was arrested in New Jersey for carrying on with a married woman. Yes, such behavior at one time was considered a crime. It is clear that in many of his songs he is speaking from personal experience. Fame does not keep one from infidelity, in fact […]
Since I have commented on the similarities between trance states and the state of mind of an infidel, there are a few more basics that need attention. Since a passive mindset is associated with trance states, it is important to engage their mind in active thinking. This can be done by asking questions that require […]
In scanning the news this morning, I saw this article on Camilla and the anniversary of Princess Diana’s death. The article deals with Camilla deciding not to attend the memorial. The story brings to light, that affairs have a way of keeping the hurt going for years. Long after the affair is over, the scars […]
Finally, there is a politician in Texas who takes adultery seriously. Larry Kilgore, a possible candidate for Senator has advocated the death penalty for those who engage in adultery with a married woman. He also advocated flogging for cursing. I suspect his campaign will not get very far in contemporary culture, although he has brought […]
In some of the research done on trance states, some interesting findings occur. It seems that while in the trance state, the person is able to engage in activities like answer the phone, take messages and other mundane tasks, yet while in that state does not recall having done those things or even having done […]
This is the first in a series of posts exploring the thinking and behavior of the infidel (the wandering spouse). Since there are many types of infidel behavior, this will not explain all types. There are some that are driven by sexual issues such as addiction, and there are some that have unresolved sexual abuse […]
The mindset of someone wanting an affair or in the middle of an affair is very trance-like. While in that state of mind, they are not processing information correctly, they are not thinking straight. It reminds me of the mindset when an addict is “jones-ing” or “seeking the drug”. They affair seeker is looking for […]
A new poll taken among teens reveal that healthy family relations and family communication are important to their happiness. Although not the most scientific, the information does provide some new insights for parents wanting to know what the concerns of their teenagers are. I have addressed the effects of affairs on children here in several […]
