Archive for August, 2007
In dealing with the aftermath of an affair, once the shock wears off it becomes necessary to decide on a plan. This plan includes your goals, deciding how you will survive, deciding how far you will go to work on the marriage, how far you will not go, and how you will make it through […]
Pride has ruined many generals, politicians and couples. Oftentimes when there are troubles in a marriage, pride keeps the partners from seeking help. If they do seek help, by the time they do so, the damage is so extensive that the likelihood of reconciliation is small. If your marriage is experiencing problems, the time to […]
When affairs occur, it is automatically assumed that the cause is “that no-good ______ just can’t keep their _________ in their pants” or “that no-good ________just can’t keep her legs together”. In some cases, that may be what is occurring, but it does not apply to every case. In many cases, there may be some […]
It is disconcerting that many couples who experience infidelity may have contributed to it occurring. The question quickly arises, “How?” In response to the question, let us look at several areas.
1) Have you encouraged infidelity through amusement? Do the movies you watch and the music you listen to promote or encourage infidelity? Sometimes people have […]
In dealing with affairs, it is as if you are dealing with two different worlds, one based in facts, the other based on fantasies. Your spouse will present material that is often based more on fantasy than reality to you and ask you to validate it. If you want to survive the affair, don’t validate […]
In surviving an affair, there are many people, matters and events that will be competing for the attention of you and your spouse. In this post, the focus will be on competing with the other person. In competing with the “other person”, it will be important to use your strong points, not try to compete […]
This article from CBS news in New Jersey reveals the newest trend in catching affairs. New Trend
Many lawyers have found the EZ tag information useful in proving that the spouse is lying about their whereabouts. Although the infidels believe all their bases are covered, they do not think when they are in ‘affair’ mode. When […]
With all the virtual reality gaming, the question arises if cheating in the game is cheating. Is it Cheating? In my dealing with people, I find that since there is an emotional investment in the virtual reality games, it is a form of cheating. I know that critics may say in the old board game […]
From the files of look at what they do and not at what they say, the actress Jennifer Lopez has sued her ex-husband to prevent his telling about her lifestyle. JLo Sues to stop story of affairs
The $500,000 involved tells me that affairs and even discussing affairs is expensive. If she was truly fine with […]
ABC news recently did a story on open marriages. Open Marriages
For me, the article is a plug for the books that endorse the lifestyle. The angle taken is one of whatever the people enjoy is acceptable. From the viewpoint of a counselor, the insecurities, damaged trust, not to mention health issues have been largely ignored […]
