Archive for September, 2007
When we go through struggles, as the struggle intensifies, the question of ‘giving up’ or quitting is either suggested to us or crosses our mind. Even when it is just a fantasy, there are those thoughts of “I’ll just walk away”. There are several problems with quitting. 1) Quitting does not solve anything. All […]
Once an affair ends and things settle down to routines an assumption is made that it is over. Since affairs are so secretive and intense, things that remind you of the affair can trigger reactions in both the infidel and the resolute spouse. The reminders of the affair can set off some very intense emotions. […]
In a recent incident in Malaysia, a wife did bodily damage to her husband. The incident was that she was jealous of another woman. This is another example of how when affairs occur, the emotions triggered are not always predictable. Affairs are dangerous to your health.
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A new autobiographic account is being released. The book, “Wall Street Wolf” by Jordan Belfort documents the life of an infidel and sexual addict. The account will show how the addiction spread to other areas of the main characters’ life, destroying his reputation, marriage and finances. Since it is based on a true story, there […]
When someone is having an affair, the acting out part is easy to determine. The resolute spouse can see and find evidence of that part of the affair. When there is no acting out, the spouse assumes all is fine and the problem is over. In some cases, this may be true.
In situations where there […]
One of the roadblocks to improving the marriage after an affair is grievances. Those who have suffered or been the victims of some wrong often hold onto the incident in such a way it becomes an obstacle. When the grievance is used as a ‘justification’ for not forgiving or for not working things out, it […]
There was an old song that described how for every up there is a down, and for every high there is a low. In relationships there are also these pairings. In relationships where there is a sex addict, there is the counter part known as the sexual co-addict. Although I have mentioned some about the […]
After a previous post on modern trends, I realized that I had not addressed the topic of swinging at any length. The swingers lifestyle is like entering another world. swinging can occur on many levels. From neighbors or ‘friends’ making an agreement to the elaborate swingers clubs. With the swingers clubs, one typically has to […]
In perusing the net, it amazes me the various trends and weirdness that is out there. Among some of the latest trends are “married dating” and “personal affairs”. This two latest terms are just new packaging for the old infidelity. Although packaged as a “trendy” and “in” thing to be a part of, these new […]
When people deny our reality and experiences it creates an unsettling feeling. We clearly know what we saw and what happened. In the context of an affair, there are times when a spouse denies what we saw and what happened. When this occurs, it leaves the person feeling bewildered. In therapy circles, this is often […]
