Traumas are often associated with sexual addictions. These traumas could have occurred in early life or in their adult life. Traumas could be physical, emotional or spiritual in origin. Despite the various sources of trauma, the effects are similar.

In physical traumas, in some cases, where there is organic brain damage, there are some difficulties in controlling the drives in their life. If they had a trauma and have shown problems regulating emotional extremes (anger, sex, eating, etc.) then it would be worth exploring the possibility of the existence of a drive control problem.

With emotional traumas, the person will find some way to reduce the pain. Although they are seeking a way to reduce their tension or anxieties, the method of reducing these feelings may lead to compulsive behaviors. Compulsive behaviors can often hide behind other more acceptable compulsions. In cases where the trauma was extreme, there may be some ‘traumatic bonds’ that developed. The victims of trauma can at times develop an addiction to the fear associated with the trauma. The brain just knows that it needs stimulation. Since they know that fear brings about the stimulation, they often engage in ‘dangerous behavior’ to give them their fear fix. These are cases that need the help of a counselor.

Spiritual trauma can also be a factor. When individuals were raised in rigid homes, there is a greater likelihood of sexual addictions developing, compared with other homes. Among sexual addicts, 77% come from rigid homes.

If you or your spouse have any of these factors in your life and affair situation, you will need to explore the possibility of a sexual addiction underlying the affair.

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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