Archive for September, 2007
Some books to consider if you suspect a sexual addiction are:
Out of the Shadows by Patrick Carnes
In the Shadows of the Net by Patrick Carnes
Dr. Carnes is the leading expert in the field of dealing with sexual addictions. He is currently the executive director of Pine Grove Treatment center in Hattiesburg, Mississippi.
Other books used by […]
Like many areas of our lives, there are many myths. The myths often keep people locked into their suffering, and prevent them from getting the help they need. Some of the common myths regarding affairs are:
1. Everyone is faithful. (Sometimes this gets taken even further by saying “All Christians are faithful” or “All Jews are […]
Most students of psychology will recognize the name of John B. Watson. He was a pioneer in the American study of psychology. His experiment with “Little Albert” is required reading in most introductory courses. What most people don’t know is that he was quite a womanizer. While a the University of Chicago, he met and […]
Shame often keeps the couple from telling each other the truth and accepting the truth of what occurred. When couples are married, there are many expectations that each spouse has. When those expectations are not met, shame develops. One of the painful aspects of an affair is having to deal with the shame of what […]
The story of Erin McLean reveals how far affairs can go. What started as an affair can spin out of control. In this case, there is now murder, and possible kidnapping in a situation that continues spinning faster and faster. What began as an affair between a female teacher and her 18 year old student […]
In dealing with infidelity, when the couple talks, it is always a struggle to determine what is “the truth”. The fact is that there are many truths. If you hope to understand what happened and what the needs of your spouse are, you will need to listen to their truth, and yes they will need […]
Traumas are often associated with sexual addictions. These traumas could have occurred in early life or in their adult life. Traumas could be physical, emotional or spiritual in origin. Despite the various sources of trauma, the effects are similar.
In physical traumas, in some cases, where there is organic brain damage, there are some difficulties in […]
Since the topic of sexual addiction is misunderstood, there are many times that an affair is part of a sexual addiction rather than a rejection of the spouse. Yes the pain of rejection is there, but what drove the behavior is different. When an addiction is present, the brain finds ways of turning bad ideas […]
An Australian travel agency conducted a survey of its travelers, who booked online and made some surprising discoveries. They found that 2/3 of the 1000 who booked were willing to have affairs overseas. The also discovered that women were not that far behind the men in considering illicit activities.
What does this information tell us? […]
One of the relationships that is high risk for affairs is when there is a power difference between the parties. In such cases, the powerful position often abuses their influence. The inferior positions often holds the other in high regard and with a sense of awe. These feelings of respect often get confused with feelings […]
