Archive for September, 2007
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. The Honorable P. C. Appiah Ofori is one of meeting some challenging situations. He was faced with the double problem of his wife having an affair and having […]
A major challenge in overcoming an affair is accepting the truth. Although I have mentioned telling yourself the truth in previous posts, that is just the beginning. The next step is accepting that truth. You will have to accept what your partner did and who they did it with. You may not like that reality, […]
There was an old song that had the line, “Do you like pina coladas?” In the song, each spouse responds to an ad seeking an affair. It turns out that they encounter each other. The song was catchy, but seemed far-fetched to me, until I read this item in the news, where a real life […]
The question o whether or not tell your spouse about an affair is a difficult situation for anyone to ever face. The dilemma of having to choose puts the burdened spouse in an awkward situation. It is not a situation where there is a way to win. There is no winning in a situation such […]
During times of discouragement, you may have to take life one day at a time. This is especially true in the aftermath of an affair. Each day make it a point to do something to strengthen your marriage. Every day we are faced with the choice of doing something to either strengthen or weaken our […]
There have been many discussions about what does or does not constitute adultery. In the traditional definition used by old time scholars, “adultery” is when actual intercourse occurs. With such a definition of adultery, there is a lot of gray areas. This is where the term infidelity comes in. Infidelity can be defined as being […]
It often astounds me in working with couples when those relationships which began with an affair begin developing trouble. The part the astounds me is that although little respect was given to marriage when the affair was underway, yet once they get married, they expect their spouse to have greater respect for their marriage than […]
In recent news, a communist Chinese government official, Pang Jiayu had acquired eleven mistresses. The mistresses were upset with their husbands lives being threatened, leading them to cooperate on bringing down the official. Although ’second wives’ are tolerated in China, there is still disapproval of affairs getting into the news. Such stories remind us that […]
In a survey of material related to affairs, I came across a population that routinely expressed difficulty dealing with affairs. This population is grown children who discover that one of their parents is having an affair. These episodes are often viewed as painful and heart wrenching. Although younger children seem to adjust with greater flexibility, […]
It is natural that when we are hurt, we want to hurt back. While in that state of hurt, we want to make others feel the pain that we feel. Although revenge is one outlet for that pain, it seldom delivers the joy that is desired. Yes revenge may leave you feeling like you have […]
