One of the many areas damaged by Parent Alienation is that the extended family of the alienated spouse is vilified. The programming that was done to create friction between the child/children and the alienated spouse spreads like a bad case of fleas. These ‘hate fleas’ infect anyone associated with the alienated spouse. They infest their family, friends and associates. It seems that the hate has no limits.
Depending on the level of programming conducted by the alienator spouse, the severity can range from minimal to fanatical. The likelihood of fanaticism will increase when mixed with religiosity. The reason for that is that what happens in those cases is that one spouse will see themselves as morally superior to the other, if their beliefs are mixed in with that, there is an attitude of moral and spiritual superiority, from which vindictive tirades are hurled against the spouse that is the target of the alienation.
In the long run, such actions serve to strain the relations between the child and the affected parent along with the extended family. What the alienator does not realize is that the very seeds of distrust they plant will eventually be used against them as well. Everyone is hurt by alienation, and the exaggeration of faults that often accompanies it. The events need to be dealt with in a factual manner, not an exaggerated one.
The very support systems that would have provided strength during a difficult time are not there to help the marriage. I mention Parent Alienation Syndrome, because it often accompanies affairs.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
