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Trust seems to be a very complex thing. Numerous efforts have been undertaken in order for people to understand trust more effectively. Even if there are hundreds of these theories available in the academe, going through broken trust, especially in the context of marriage is very difficult.

At the first stages of relationship, trust is calculus-based. This means that a person will try to anticipate the behavior of the other person and based on that anticipation and calculation, the person will determine which level of trust will be given to another person.

This calculation and anticipation is also accompanied by rewards or punishments depending on the kind of behavior being anticipated. If the person being trusted shows consistently that he is trustworthy, then trust will be enhanced and the relationship will progress and will become better.

In a manner of speaking, this kind of trust is based on a cost and benefits analysis. If the benefits outweigh the costs, then trust will more likely be given.

If your marriage has been rocked by a recent bout of an affair, then your relationship with your spouse will be based on a calculus-based kind of trust. If you were to rebuild your trust with your spouse, you both need to work things out so that you will be able to go beyond this kind of trust and enhance your relationship.

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