Although the topic of sexual addiction is discussed in erotic literature and romance novels, many people do not recognize the many ways such addictions can show up in their lives. Here is a list of the ten most common forms of sexual addictions. Although many couples do not want to admit that these may be going on in their marriage, knowing what they are can help you better identify the danger.

1. Role Play or Fantasy Sex. Although many of the sex books advocate this, the role playing often crosses the line of play. When you spouse is more turned on by your role than you, there are problems.

2. Seduction Sex. This is where the spouse wants their partner to seduce a third party. This can occur either overtly or covertly.

3. Sex with Anonymous Persons.

4. Money for Sex

5. Trading Sex for Other Favors. This is where sex becomes a medium of exchange. The sex is used for payment or services with others.

6. Voyerism.

7. Exhibitionism.

8. Using pain or humiliation to bring about sexual arousal

9. Violating sexual boundaries. This involves violating the boundaries of others without their awareness of the act.

10.  Confusing power differentials in relationships with sex. This often involves powerful roles or people exploiting the weaker ones for sexual purposes.

This list is designed to help know if your sexual behaviors have crossed over the line into the sexual addiction category. It is for use as a guideline, not as a diagnostic tool. If you have several of these in your life, you may want to consult with a specialist to help you with those behaviors.

(see, Patrick Carnes book, Don’t Call it Love: Recovery From Sexual Addiction for more information).

Best Regards,

Jeff Murrah

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