Archive for July, 2008
This is one of the more difficult questions that arise in the course of dealing with affairs. This question is one that challenges your commitment to your spouse, your values and yourself. Many people look for a skeleton key that unlocks all the locks and answers all the questions. There is no one size fits […]
Should You Get Divorce after an Affair?
You were hurt and you feel deeply betrayed. You ask yourself, “How can I trust my spouse again?” because of emotions and internal conflicts, you may become desperate in seeking for the right answers and the right solutions.
The most instinctive response to an affair is divorce. But […]
The London Telegraph carried a story this morning about a woman who had an affair. The affair resulted in a pregnancy, which she hid from her lover/roommate. After giving birth to the stillborn child, she hid the body in the trunk (boot) of her car. The story serves as a reminder that eventually affairs will […]
Communicate and Participate in Rebuilding Your Marriage
Communication is a two-way process. If all you do is talk and talk and talk without considering your partner, he or she might just leave you talking.Health communication allows for both you to talk and listen. The amount of time each talks requires parity. When one person […]
When it comes to affairs, there is often a great deal of debate about what actions constitute and affair. Discussions about that are often heated. Another area needing attention is where do you draw the line in terms of how much you are willing to put up with? Knowing this will help you know at […]
Some spouses deny that their actions were improper. They dismiss it with, “I did nothing wrong” or “Nothing happened”. All that such statements are communicating is that they did not get laid. Such statements are often made to minimize what they did or to calm down the resolute spouse. When such statements are made, they […]
You and your partner have known about the affair. To save your marriage, you have to understand that there are several things both you and your partner have to do for your marriage to be promoted.
Make sure the affair is truly over. The affair has to stop! No more communication and interaction at […]
Ending the affair is often a source of conflict. For the resolute spouse it is only a matter of saying “Goodbye, It’s Over!”. For the adulterous spouse, it is not that quick and easy. Letting go of the relationship also involves letting go of the dreams, hopes and optimism that it generated. They often find […]
I often hear the question, “Why doesn’t she leave him?” or “Why does he put up with her?”. These are questions often asked regarding affairs. The questions arise when outsiders do not understand the bonding that has taken place. When couples have been together for a while, there is bonding. The bonding occurs on many […]
Reestablishing your marriage after an affair is not to be rushed or forced. Making things happen rather than allowing them to change is a common mistake. It is difficult to wait during this ongoing process, but it is very possible to survive the affair. There is hope as long as you are committed […]
