Affairs are expensive. The price tag of affairs have many hidden costs that are not seen on the front end. Among the cost of affairs are the trinkets purchased to appease the spouse and lover, legal expenses for divorce and child custody, loss of reputation, loss of position, loss of security, loss of family stability, and loss of peace of mind. An actual detailed list of expenses would be longer than space allows. This partial list is enough to bring to awareness many of the hidden costs involved with affairs.
Along with the hidden costs are the collateral damages. One of the painful damages is that inflicted on families. Many single parent homes and step-families are the result of affairs. It is painfully sad to consider that the unbridled lust and self-gratification of a parent can do so much damage. The adulterer and their lover were only interested in their gratification. They lived a fantasy which their children are forced to pay for. Not only is the adulterer’s family impacted, but the lover’s family often suffers related to the affair as well. Children grow up thinking their father was a rambler or that their mother was a slut. Such associations are painful for children who want to look up to and admire the accomplishments and lives of thier parents. Even with adult children, the shame of the adulterer’s actions is painful. Although many efforts are taken to excuse what happened, the reality boils down to this:
An Affair=Rejection of the children and family
or more simply
Affair=Rejection
Whether or not rejection was intended, the affair sends that message to the children. The feelings of loneliness and abandonment are pains that often haunt children for years. Before giving into the lust of the moment, consider how it will impact your family.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
2 Responses
I was asked to swing. It s not like I didn’t want to. But given we were just back together from a brake up I thought was the wrong moment,instead of talking about it was left. It destroyed my relationship, and me.and I mean crushed. within a month he changed. I felt unwanted. Nothing but that would really turn him on . Be careful people. Evaluate how much your partner is worth to you and what s more important. Either way be honest. Pls be honest. I don’t wish this feeling to my worse enemy.
Anouska,
Thank you for your comment. swinging definitely changes people. Once the change starts, it’s hard to control or predict. What’s for certain is that the relationship changes as well. I like your words of wisdom, “Evaluate how much your partner is worth to you and what’s more important.”
Regards,
Jeff