Archive for May, 2009
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. When news of an affair comes out, there are often strong reactions from the resolute spouse. At that time, it is common to hear “That is my wife! […]
In a recent conversation about affairs with a peer, the subject of ‘the institution of marriage’ came up. He conveyed an experience he had when a man from another country commented that ‘many Americans do not understand the institution of marriage’. He went on to state that rather than recognize that upon deciding to marry, […]
In assembling material for another book on dealing with affairs, I have come across some thought provoking observations. One is that there is often a greater emphasis on understanding whether or not an affair is taking place than on ways of coping with the affair. There are plenty of top 10 signs that your spouse […]
One of the best ways to keep from being taken by hucksters is to avoid them. Likewise one of the best ways to keep being taken (snowed, lied to, snookered, etc.) by a lying spouse is to avoid the opportunities for ‘making excuses’. In the aftermath of an affair, the pain levels are high. During […]
In everyday culture, a common phrase used when something is taken to the extremes is that it is “on steroids”. When an affair is taken to extremes, their is a “double life”. The most blatant example of a ‘double life’ is that of Brian Myerson, who maintained two households and even went on vacations with […]
In the aftermath of an affair, many couples find themselves stuck in a cycle of conflict. Part of the conflict involves the questions they ask themselves and each other. One of those destructive questions is “Is it my fault?” By posing such questions, people are looking for someone to blame. They are looking for a […]
There are a number of behaviors that serve as clear indications that a marriage is in trouble. Although to some the list may be redundant, there are some readers who have never seen such a list. These are my ten signs that your relationship is in trouble.
1. Your partners visits a lawyer and does not […]
Although mother’s day and infidelity are not often seen to go hand in hand. Given that 69% of children do not know who their father is, there is a strong possibility that many children were borne from an affair. With Mother’s Day approaching, children remember their parents, or lack thereof. When children were borne out […]
In any given week, there are multiple stories concerning adultery and affairs. This week Amy Winehouse and Elizabeth Edwards are both in the news concerning adultery. The pain of adultery is real. Money does not prevent it from occurring nor does it keep those touched by adultery away from the pain. Even when people in […]
Although the mind of the infidel often excuses the affair with such phrases as “I deserve to be happy!”, “It makes me happy!”, “He/She makes me _______ (laugh, feel young again, horny, etc.)”. When in the midst of the affair, the infidel does not consider that infidelity hurts those around them. It destroys trust. It […]
