Archive for June, 2009
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. The topic of sexual addiction is one of the issues that people are now willing to discuss in relation to infidelity. Even though couples are willing to look […]
“Is there any hope for my marriage?” is a common question that a spouse asks. In asking the question, the suffering spouse is seeking reassurances that things will work out. They often want to know the answer to a question like this rather than repair the relationship and work on improving things. Although it is […]
With the recent disclosure of Governor Mark Sanford of South Carolina having an affair, the media is looking at the topic again. Although some commentators view his situation as a possible “honey pot” situation where he was set up, the reality remains…he had an affair. He knew that his actions were wrong, otherwise he would […]
One of the false assumptions concerning affairs is that the lover is all the problem. Many couples assume that by removing the lover from the picture, all the problems are solved. The lover was the infidels solution to the problem. The problem that existed before the affair still exists. The only thing that changed was […]
On reading a recent article that discusses Alec Bladwin’s initial reaction after a private voicemail recording was released and subsequent suicidal thoughts. He knew that the conversation would be used against him. In the aftermath of an affair, it is common for their to be suspicious thoughts and even paranoia. Such feelings worsen when there […]
Although the thought of parental meddling seems odd concerning an affair, the threat is very real. When affairs occur, many adult children still consult with their parents at some time during the ordeal. Although the parents were likely a part of the wedding ceremony and signed the guest book, they soon forget what that meant. […]
Although the question is often asked “Who did you have the affair with?”. It is rare that the cheater gives a gut-level honest answer. Yes, they can tell you the person who they were with, but oftentimes, the emotional attachment is to the fantasies they have about the person more than the person themselves. The […]
Although morals often change with the times and fashions, infidelity remains one of those areas that people know is wrong. Many types of misbehavior can be rationalized and excused. Even when people try to excuse affairs, they find that the excuse may sound plausible to the lover when they are in the midst of the […]
As humans, we all need to be in relationship. Part of being ‘in relationship’ is feeling connected to people who are important to us. This need for being ‘in relationship’ is part of the natural process of being human. Anyone who grows up healthy and functional has this need. In functional marriages, this need is […]
When struggling through affairs, one of the challenging questions concerns whether it is a matter for the church or the courts. Each body has its own remedies and procedures. When seeking a remedy for an affair, it is important to know what each can do and what they can not do. There are benefits and […]
