Archive for August, 2009
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. Much like pigs wallow in mud, there are some people who wallow in the pain and/or self-pity in the aftermath of an affair. There are many reasons they […]
Recovering from an affair in a small town has its challenges. In a large city, one can avoid the places associated with the affair. In a small town, one is confronted with reminders on a daily basis. Having to see and be reminded of the affair makes it akin to a wound that never heals. […]
The other day, I came across a website that suggested monogamy amounts to nothing more than a religious belief. I have heard many extreme ideas promoted to justify having affairs, and this amounted to the latest. Although religious beliefs provide support for the practice of monogamy, it is more than that.
The practice of monogamy is […]
Extramarital affairs are not the exclusive domain of movie stars. Nor are they the exclusive domain of politicians. Although the chatter in the twitterverse about Republicans paying for the extramarital affairs of many in leadership positions seems to be a hot topic today. The reality is that they can occur across party lines. They are […]
If you think the consequences of cheating are intense and painful, consider how they are magnified in a small town. In small towns, people often know each others business, including who is sleeping with who. Typically, this is one of the factors that often keeps people from cheating. Problems often arise when someone from the […]
A question that often bothers me in dealing with affairs is “Did I do everything I could do?”. This is a perplexing question in that you are dealing with a relationship, not capturing a wild animal. When you are dealing with an animal, techniques that focus on capturing and trapping are often used. In dealing […]
One of the dangers of the ‘Playboy’ mentality is the demeaning it does of women. Women are no longer looked at as wives, but rather as playmates or pets. Those infected with the playboy mentality have new playthings to enjoy themselves each month. Such a mentality weakens marriages. Spouses are not viewed as equals, adults […]
The therapist Carl Rogers is credited with many things. One of those is the importance of ‘unconditional love’. I think the PC term is “unconditional positive regard”. He viewed this quality as essential to healthy relationships. In considering his ideas, it occurred to me that affairs are just the opposite. They are ‘conditional’ relationships. These […]
When in comes to dealing with affairs, the public and family do not react the same to all types of affairs. When affairs occur in reaction to ’severe’ abuse or neglect, there is often more acceptance of what happened than when they occur in other circumstances. Another type of affair that is often viewed as […]
One of the leading anthropologist researchers made that observation that “language influences how we think”. In his studies of cultures, he found that there is more to language that just the sounds coming out of out mouths. His observations also have applications concerning affairs and cheating. There will often be changes in thinking and language […]
