Archive for August, 2009

If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. One of the problems with the 70′s was that there were people who took the “If it feels good, do it” mentality and applied it to their marriages.  Although [...]

It often happens that in the conflicts that occur related to an affair, the subject of maturity comes up. One aspect of maturity involves having a realistic perceptions of others, yourself and your relationship. With this in mind, maturity requires that your perception of others is realistic. That means that you look at them for [...]

There was a speaker who once used the illustrative story which included the line, “The best time to plant an apple tree was 2o years ago”. His story comes to mind in dealing with affairs as well. Although the best strategy would be to avoid them altogether, when people are trapped in them, the time [...]

When an affair is suspected, there is a time period where the one suspecting it does not have ‘sold proof’ of its occurrence. During this time, there are feelings of self-doubt. People wonder if they are ‘just imagining’ what they suspect is going on. Some unscrupulous spouses prey on this vulnerability by denying the affair [...]

In pondering the origin of affairs, there are some observations that I have made. It is common knowledge that infidelity and affairs are often the subject, it not the focus of material on television and the movies. Affairs are also all over the news. In an insane manner, we term the constant diet of infidelity [...]