Although to outsiders, continuing in self-destructive behavior patters is unhealthy, when you are the one caught up in such behaviors, they are not so easy to see. When they are seen, they are often not easy to emotionally leave. Breaking through the denial about such behavior takes work. Working up the courage to take action rather than just admit the truth of the situation to yourself is a challenge.
What are some self-destructive behaviors?
1. Allowing your spouse to steal from you.
2. Allowing your spouse to physically abuse you.
3. Allowing your spouse to emotionally abuse you.
4. Allowing your spouse to exploit you.
5. Allowing your spouse to treat you like a sexual object.
6. Your spouse keeps you held captive at home.
7. Your spouse ridicules you in front of others
8. Your spouse forces you to have non-consensual sex
9. Your spouse treats you as ‘inferior’ to them.
10. Blaming yourself for your spouse’s out of control behaviors.
11. Cutting on yourself or forcing yourself to regurgitate.
In the aftermath of affairs, some spouses are so desperate to keep their wandering spouse, they allow themselves to tolerate and put up with abusive behaviors. When in an emotionally trying situation, decisions are often made on the basis of desperation, rather than what is healthy. Restoring your marriage does not mean you have to accept self-destructive situations.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
