Archive for October, 2009
If you want to be notified the next time I write something, sign up for email alerts or subscribe to the RSS Feed. Thanks for reading. When people have suffered traumas, especially sexual traumas, there are some potential risks regarding affairs. Depending on the intensity of the trauma, they may find themselves unable to […]
Gary and Jennifer were having problems. A discovered affair now has their marriage in a precarious place. Over the years they drifted apart and now they were face to face with their worst fears. in response, they decided to see a counselor. After the initial introductions, the counselor posed the question “What are you here […]
The time of year associated with Halloween is connected with threats and tricks. The public often visit haunted houses and events that produce sensations of fear or surprise. There are times that those frightened scream and run off. Fear, fright, and surprise are part of the package that goes with Halloween. Sadly, there are some […]
Politicians and business hucksters have a knack for ‘relabeling’ and renaming items that have negative associations. Much like the Speaker of the House is renaming the ‘public option’ to the ‘competitive option’ in order to make it more palatable, the same kind of ‘renaming’ game is going in in Malaysia with the ‘polygamy club’. The […]
In previous centuries, couples were careful to avoid treachery against their spouse. Words like treachery and treason carried with them a stain to the honor and reputation of anyone who had been called such names. In colonial America, being associated with treason or treachery was a major concern. In previous generations, the very thought of […]
When couples begin working on their relationship, one of the potential dangers is that of suffocation. By suffocation, I am referring to emotional suffocation. Although the intentions may be honorable, the act of suffocation is always dangerous to relationships. Although there are times those doing the suffocating do not realize what they are doing, there […]
Intimacy is more that an activity that goes on in the bedroom. Establishing closeness with your spouse is often a challenge, especially after an affair (by either you or them). When working with couples that are attempting to heal their relationship, one of the stumbling blocks to overcome is simple, basic, communication. many times couples […]
Jennifer refused the advances of a married man who approached her. He was persistent in his advances, but she remained firm and said “NO”. After the incident, she occasionally saw the man. She tried to be decent with him, but he always managed to twist matters. he often stared at her, which made her feel […]
One of the areas that surprised me in working with couples are the STRONG reactions I often encounter when addressing preventative measures. In my logic, knowing what steps to take in order to prevent affairs should be common sense and be welcomed, they are often the most emotionally charged items. It seems that addressing […]
In going through a book of poetry, I found reference to a person’s heart being ‘fixed’ to something. On doing some research on the term, it refers to the object of one’s affection. It is a reference to the foundation on which one’s heart is attached. I realized quickly that this does have a bearing […]
