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In the arguments that often accompany affairs, it is common to hear the phrase, “I didn’t mean what I said”.  When this phrase occurs with great frequency, there are problems in the relationship that are larger than the affair. This is a phrase often heard among people struggling with co-dependency in their relationships.  Just because you may have said this does not make you co-dependent, yet if it has become a way of life and you expect your spouse to ‘know’ your intentions and meanings, there may be some ‘co-dependency’ in the relationship which will need to be addressed in healing the relationship.

Although science touts the idea of mind reading as a breakthrough, acting as if you can read or your spouse can read your mind is disastrous for  health of the relationship. Spouses do not read minds and you do not know what your spouse is thinking. You may be very familiar with their patterns, but that does not mean you know what they are thinking and can think for them.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah

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