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Within the recovery community are many nuggets of wisdom that have many applications for other areas, including dealing with affairs and their aftermath. One of those nuggets is to “Stick with winners”.  This saying has many applications for marriages. One being that when your marriage relationship is strained, it is not the time to hang out with losers, or those who have a history of troubled relationships. You want to be with and listen to couples who have stayed together and managed to work through their issues. When you are in crisis, you are more vulnerable to bad advice. Hanging with people who are winners will help you more than associating with other people, even though they may be fun and full of laughs.

“Sticking with winners” also means you need to avoid the hangouts and places that losers congregate. Find out where the winners go and go there as well. Do the things that the winners do. Avoid loser talk, loser attitudes, and loser places. Losers also do not joke about affairs and cheating. Let those who have lost at love and relationships joke about their failures. Read what winners read, learn to think like a winner, practice the behaviors of a winner.

This phrase also helps with sexual addictions as well. Sticking with winners will help you avoid relapses into unhealthy behaviors. The little phrase “Stick with winners” is simple, but powerful when it is put into practice. The old phrase, “You can know a man (or woman) by the company they keep” addresses this same idea. Losers can corrupt good manners and good habits.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah

coping with an affair, coping with infidelity, Rebuilding the relationship, repairing your relationship, Sexual addiction