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I am often amazed at words people use to describe their situations. One of the terms used in association with affairs is ‘hooking up’. This word carries with it associations of attachment and connecting. In many affairs, people are looking for people they can ‘attach’ to.  When they are ‘on the prowl’, they are seeking out someone who they can attach to. When they find that person, the relationship often begins with eye contact. With that eye contact, events begin to unfold. In the cases, where there is any sense of rapport, they two people feel drawn to each other. At some level there are often some similar issues. The longer the two people tune into each other, the greater the attraction. With heightened attraction, they begin forming an attachment. The attachment may begin with small talk, drinks, Bible study, or some other activity. With the forming of attachment, there is greater emotional involvement. As those attachments strengthen and expand to other areas, they soon find themselves immersed in an affair. They managed to “hook up” with someone. Even the variation of ‘hooking up” carry themes of attachment. “Shacking up”, “Sleeping with” and the various vulgar versions all carry some association with attachment.

Best Regards,

Jeffrey Murrah

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