When it comes to emotions, although you want the good feelings to go on forever, when the pain hits, it never seems to leave. The pain feels like it will continue forever. It is like a bottomless pit that you are falling deeper and deeper into.
When you are in the bottomless pit of pain, what can you do? It seems like every parachute fails upon opening and nothing seems to help.
Although there are similarities between your pit of pain and the next person’s pit of pain, each one is unique. There is a reason why terms like “Your own personal hell” are used during such times. It may be the pain of betrayal, the torment of fear, being engulfed by loneliness, or some other horrid experience.
What can you do to deal with it?
Here is what you can do:
1. Recognize that the pit is NOT bottomless. The pain will eventually end. The longer and more intensely you fight it, the more it will be prolonged.
2. Ask yourself, and the pain, “What am I supposed to learn from this?”. Pain is often a signal for you to take action on something. It may mean that you need to do something to improve yourself, change yourself or it may mean that your relationship needs some changes, or there is an issue that you need to address in the relationship. Knowing what the pain is teaching you is critical in deciding what intervention to use. The clearer idea you have of what you are dealing with the clearer the solution to the situation will be. If it is not clear, that may be where you need to start. Get clear on what you are struggling with.
Best Regards,
Jeffrey Murrah
