One of the sure signs that your marriage is in trouble is when you or the cheater don’t recognize ‘evil’ when you see it.
With all the movies and mass media sending messages about the acceptability or swinging and the innocence of ‘one-night stands’ there will be damage done to your moral compass. Each attack on your moral compass can mess it up, whether it is a major one or a seemingly innocent one.
Affairs in many ways have become entertainment. They have become connected more with the concept of fun instead of the pain that they inflict.
It’s not by chance that lovers are no longer referred to as ‘home wreckers’ or swingers as ‘perverts’, sluts or whore mongers.Those words are considered harsh and old fashioned by moral revisionists.
These days the wicked refer to themselves as having ‘alternate lifestyles’ or ‘open marriages’ or ‘adventurous’. Using such words often hides the ugliness and the evil behind affairs, sleeping around and associated activities.
Although they were harsh, with the older words, you recognized evil when you saw it.
Many times, your moral fiber is compromised a little at a time. You make soft choices to ‘avoid hurting people’s feelings’ or ‘to keep the peace’ or ‘for something a little different’, etc.
Each of these so called little compromises chip away at your moral compass until one day you wake up and wonder “How did I get into this nightmare?” The answer, simple yet unpleasant is that you did not recognize evil when you saw it. Your moral compass lost its direction a little at a time.
So what does this mean? It may mean that you need some re-calibration of your compass. You may want to regain your moral bearings before ‘fixing’ your marriage.
Part of the healing involves getting back on course. If your first priority is getting back rather than doing what is right, you could find yourself in a sticker mess of evil than you are in now.
It helps when your first priority is doing what’s right, then get back together.
If you need a place where you can talk about what happened with others and learn more, consider joining the Support Community at ‘Restored Lifestyle’.
Best Regards,
Jeff
