What our grandfathers and grandmothers knew about Affairs

Have you ever considered how your grandparents dealt with long absences from each other with events like World War I or World War II? They lived away from each other for years, yet in most cases didn’t have affairs and sleep around.

(Yes, I know that there were some that did, yet the vast majority didn’t. There are always a few Johnny or Sally hot pants out there, although their numbers aren’t like the numbers of spouses that sleep around today).

Most of them knew the seriousness of the commitment that marriage was. They knew that marriage was about commitment, not a relationship that you stay in until you get tired of someone and then move on.

That generation didn’t subscribe to the use them and lose them mentality of the modern world. They didn’t have the societal pressures from television and pop music encouraging them to sleep around.

Affairs and divorce weren’t ‘normalized’ by social engineers. Instead, having a committed, stable marriage and family was the priority.

They didn’t have viagra or other artificial stimulants to contend with. Some of them didn’t have penicillin to ‘clean’ up any indiscretions that occurred. Rather than have indiscretions, they generally avoided them.

Sure there were places like houses of ill repute, yet the only people who went there were those who were desperate or lacking in skills to find members of the opposite sex.

BTW, have you ever seen photos from those old places? The women there were not the desirable ones that you often see in the movies. Nor were the facilities are the pleasant places of modern media.

If your family was one of those whose grandparents did sleep around, there is something to be learned there as well. In those cases, you are looking a a strong family tradition of affairs, which often means that your problem with the cheater has a generational component rather than them just choosing to cheat. That ‘generational’ component of the affair will need to be addressed if you hope to put the affair past you.

There are many lessons to be learned from previous generations. Some are lessons to emulate, some where we learn what to avoid.

The hurts of affairs are real. When you are wanting healing, consider joining the support community at Restored Lifestyle.

Best Regards,

Jeff

 

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