The people whose calls you take often says more about you than you realize. When you take calls no matter what is going on or who your with, it says that the person is important.
Taking a call says that your relationship with that person is a priority. Assuming that you are not dealing with a crisis, when your relationship with the caller continues taking preference over who you are with, your actions are sending a loud message.
You may view yourself as a ‘good person’ who wants to help others, yet when your own family continues losing out on your attention, something is wrong. You may be a soldier, businessman, pastor, healthcare worker, teacher or some other vocation that provides a helpful service.
When that service takes precedence over your family and your spouse routinely, YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS TANTAMOUNT TO AN AFFAIR!.
When such priorities happen, do not be surprised that there are false accusations of you having an affair. Emotionally, you are.
You may deny sleeping with the people you are helping, yet your spouse knows who actually gets your attention. They see whose calls you jump to answer.
They see where they are in the pecking order of your priorities. Putting it simply, if your spouse is not your priority, YOU LOOSE.
Many affairs start with someone encroaching on your time and attention. Those people in need will eventually crowd out your spouse and family. Many pastors and ministers put their flock ahead of their spouse.
They forget that their primary responsibility is to their families. Being blinded by good intentions, they assume that their family will ‘understand’. It could be that you are a doctor or social worker or elected official or some other ‘service oriented profession’.
The bottom line is that if your spouse and family keep loosing out, you are creating the dynamics of an affair whether or not it has been consummated. Some people call them emotional affairs. They can be with a person or an agency or a group.
It’s foolhardy assuming that affairs can only happen with a person. They can happen with your job or profession.
The simple question, “Whose calls do you take?” reveals a lot.
In the ebook, ‘Why Wasn’t I Enough?“, I address the most frequently asked questions about affairs. It could be the someone else has already asked the question you need an answer for.
You can spare yourself public embarrassment by ordering your copy today.
Best Regards,
Jeff
