You may have been told that “There is no turning back of the clock” when it comes to morals and standards.I have to chuckle when I hear it, since we do it every year at time change.
Many times the very people telling you that you can’t return to the way things used to be are the ones encouraging to turn back your clock. The fact is, you can turn back the clock in your family.
You and your spouse can confess the wrongs done to each other and turn your back on those behaviors, attitudes and friends that contributed to the atmosphere that led to the affair in the first place.
If there was ‘no turning back’ there would be no hope for marriages. The attitude of ‘you can’t change anything’ is creates a mindset of paralysis.
It forces you to give up hope. When others tell you that your spouse cheated because that ‘is their nature’, or ‘they were born that way’, you need to reject what they are saying.
Such thinking is a poison that kills your marriage. We make changes everyday. We often change our diets, routines and habits.
Granted, such changes are not easy. There is always resistance to change.
Rather than let that resistance wear you down, try seeing beyond it. Recognize lies and half-truths for what they are. Discouragement is not something you need. You do need truth, but not discouragement. There is a difference between the two.
I hope that you remember that you can turn back the clock and do so.
A great way to start turning things back is the downloadable “Affair Recovery Workshop” In it you’ll find out where and how changes can be made to your marriage. When you know what specific areas bring long term change, it’s empowering.
You may want to change, yet not know where to being. The Workshop guides you in knowing where to begin your journey back to a marriage you enjoy.
Best Regards,
Jeff
