Theology and Cheaters:Twisting the Night Away

I am always amazed at how cheaters twist and distort things to accommodate their

actions. Nowhere has this astounded me as much as in the area of theology and affairs. You may not have thought of this, but cheaters also twist their theology in order to accommodate their actions.

Rather than allow what Scripture says to shape them, they instead re-shape Scripture to accommodate their thinking.

In theology, they often want to portray God as love, and full of forgiveness. While painting a picture of BIG LOVE, they leave out any idea of righteousness regarding marriage or having to be loyal to one’s spouse. When your idea of God is one of forgiveness rather than accountability, it gives the cheater a blank check to cheat.

They also twist ideas about marriage. For the cheater, they create a theology where the purpose of marriage is “to be happy” above anything else. They often say “God wants me to be happy”.

Any teaching about home, marriage and family addressing any other purpose to marriage outside of happiness are ignored or dismissed. Their theology is that ‘happiness is job#1’.

Happiness takes on the top priority and the others are ignored. They live life from the perspective that if they are not happy, then the other issues do not matter.

If they’re not happy in their marriage, then anything they do in the name of ‘seeking happiness’ is acceptable. Any behavior no matter how sinful or distasteful can be justified if it makes them happy in their relationships (they twist their theology from happiness in marriage to happiness in their relationships).

This list includes affairs, prostitution, drugs, swinging, etc. In their mind, if it makes them happy, it is justified.

In talking to cheaters regarding their theology, they will talk about an objective and supreme God, yet in the way they lead their lives, the only god they follow consistently is themselves.

If they were honest, they would acknowledge that apply the attributes they see and worship in themselves are projected onto an objective and external God. If this sounds weird, it is because it is.

This is one reason why you may feel confused when talking with them about God. They are constantly switching around their concept of god. If you expect them to be consistent or that your idea of God is their idea of God, you are in for a disappointment.

By necessity, their theology of a supreme being has to be constantly shifting. The shifting mirrors their own shifting values and priorities. They want a God that has good intentions, to reflect themselves. They don’t want a God that has behavioral accountability. Accountability doesn’t mix well with good intentions.

Best Regards,

Jeff

 

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