The Washington Post, which is an influential newspaper recently ran an article on the ‘evolution of forsaking monogamy‘. With a title like that, if you were wanting to be progressive or hip, you may think that the cool thing to do is ‘have an affair’.
The article not only makes affairs look attractive, it promotes them.
Articles like the one on forsaking monogamy are dangerous for many of you. When a major newspaper uses its influence to break-up marriages and promote infidelity, you have problems.
Rather than being a moral beacon and encourage values that strengthen marriages, they are doing just the opposite. Sadly, there are some people who do not think about what they read, and will assume that because it is in the Washington Post that “it must be so”.
Those same non-thinkers may read the article and use it to pressure you into having an affair or say that your marriage is too ‘old-fashioned’. After categorizing your marriage and values as old-fashioned, the proposed livening things up with an affair will be suggested.
When the Washington Post promotes the same values as Ashley Madison, it should tell you that the ‘influential’ people are lost in terms of moral values.
Someone has broken their moral compass. They have replaced values such as loyalty, trust, honest, and commitment with being stylish, hip, sensation-driven and indulging of narcissistic behaviors. You can not build a solid marriage on such values.
One of the forces behind this is the influence of the activist Dan Savage, who first used the term ‘monagamish’. The term is nothing more than a new stylish label for the old ‘infidel’ or ‘cheater’ or ‘philanderer’. In progressive circles, having new ‘hip’ terms for old immorality somehow makes it more acceptable.
He promotes hedonism and denigrates monogamy in marriage. The truth is adultery hurts everyone it touches. It destroys families.
The promoters of adultery talk about how great is is for the ego of the cheater and how ‘cool’ it is, but the reality is that it’s destructive. It weakens and destroys relationships and trust. It replaces love with control, it replaces trust with fear. It replaces security with sensationalism.
If you want a high drama, insecure relationship filled with fear and control, then you may find the values of WaPo and Dan Savage compatible with what you want.
If you want a marriage where there is love, security, loyalty and commitment, you want the kind of relationship that comes with monogamy.
It is one thing when the adult sites, or cable television channels are promoting infidelity. When bloggers are promoting such values, t is a sign that the values of pornography and self-indulgence are now being shoved down your throat.
The values that were once hidden behind brown paper wrappings and x-ratings are now coming at you in major metropolitan newspapers.
Don’t get fooled by new terms like “monagamish” or evolving past monogamy. These are just the old ‘whorehouse theology’ with a respectable paint job. If you are one that wants to be trendy and hip, this is one trend you will want to avoid and not fall for.
Best Regards,
Jeff
