If you are caught up in the ‘lifestyle’ of swinging, there may come a time that you have to consider “What happens after swinging?” This is a crucial question, since when you are seeking kicks, thrills and excitement, you are always on the lookout for what is ‘the next thing’.
Swinging is risky enough as it is. Those that want to ‘up the ante’ go from swinging in a highly controlled atmosphere to one where things are looser. At first potential swing partners or playmates are interviewed. During the initial interview, you decide whether or not they will be a good fit with your preferences.
In the search for new excitement, there will be ‘little compromises’ along the way. The limits that were once set as a way of maintaining the illusion of control are encroached upon. The screening becomes less rigorous. Someone decides that new limits or horizons need to be established. New thrills are sought. The limits you once set, are now questioned. You may even start to wonder what is on the other side of the fence of those limits. There is something exciting about challenging taboos. At first they are societies taboos, then they are your own personal ones. It may even become a challenge to see how many taboos you can cross.
Once you start compromising on interviewing, and begin expanding your horizons or challenging new taboos it becomes a slippery slope. Swinging blurs into orgies with those you know. After that, things start blurring into anonymous encounters. The excitement of not knowing who you are with adds a sense of danger. This is the lure of sexually addictive behaviors.
When you reach anonymous encounters, you are in a realm beyond swinging. Although you may find it exciting, there is little difference between this form of lifestyle and prostitution. In fact, you are only a few slippery steps from human trafficking, all in the name of ‘the next thing’.
Swinging does not remain static. It always takes you deeper. Not only does it take you deeper, it will take you deeper than you wanted to go. You have to consider what happens after swinging, since swinging will take you to other places.
You can get out of the swinging lifestyle, although the deeper you go, the longer it will take, and the greater the struggle. There is hope, there is help.
If you’re struggling with the effects from swinging you may be experiencing relationship trauma. You don’t have to get drunk, take pills or medications to numb yourself out, and keep symptoms under control.
When you have been traumatized, there are reasons for you not being able to get over it’ and bounce back. Discover the tools, exercises and techniques you need in understanding and moving past what has happened to you. If that’s your situation, get your copy of the video on “Overcoming Relationship Trauma for Swingers“. 75-minutes. Immediate Access.
Best Regards,
Jeff Murrah
