Having spent part of my growing up years in the 1970’s, I grew up with the Stylistic’s 1973 hit, “Break up to make up”. At the time, it was often the backdrop to the high drama of dating relationships. Many times what propels a song to hit status is not just the quality of the song, but also because it hits on some universal truth.
It is not just a 70’s thing either. A newer song by Jermih in 2009 by the same title shows that this universal truth is still with us. Relationships are still going through this the dance of coming together and pulling apart.
There are several universal truths in both versions of “Break up to make up”. One of these is that many relationships go through a strange dance of breaking up and making up. It is not a requirement, yet it often happens. The intensity of the on again off again drama is increased when there is sexual activity included in the relationship.
I mention this in association with affairs because sooner or later, you will encounter the effects of the ‘break up to make up’ dance in recovering from the affair. Although you want your spouse back and like the making up part, there is a lover out there who wants the cheater back. They also want the ‘making up’ part of relationship.
Just because your spouse breaks off the affair does not mean that the lover will let go of them. You need to be prepared for them wanting to live out the Stylistics song. They will do all the dance steps needed to lure the cheater back into relationship with them.
Much like day follows night, the lover will do something to get the cheater back. You will find out if they broke up to make up or whether the break-up was the final word on their relationship. The break up will be tested and you need to be prepared for it.
If you are fortunate, the lover will be inexperienced. If the lover is experienced, they can exert a powerful force that pulls the cheater back to them. Some lovers even resort to using chants, spells and witchcraft in enticing the cheater back. When such techniques are being used against you, it poses a threat to your marriage in ways you never imagined.
I do not endorse such activities. I want to make you aware of how extreme some lovers will go. I am well aware that there are parts of South Texas where this practice is quite prevalent. Keep in mind that although the affair may be the first time this has happened to you, for some lovers who want your spouse, this is not their first rodeo. They are experienced, well-versed and highly skilled in turning relationships in their direction. If you have never dealt with this kind of situation, you may want to take a look at “She’s a Homewrecker” and see what kind of extremes lovers will go to in getting a spouse.
Knowing what you are up against can help you better deal with it. You do not have to be blind sided by a lover’s attempts at getting your spouse.
Best Regards,
Jeff
