Does your spouse have ‘affairs on the brain?’ Are they accusing you of having an affair, yet you have done no such thing or even considered it?
When one spouse has ‘affairs on the brain’ and are accusing you of them, it makes for a challenging situation.
When you are facing such a situation, what can you do?
First, you will want to rule out any medical or mental health issues. In some cases, sudden accusations and suspicion may be indicative of serious medical conditions that need attention.
Although it may be convenient to dismiss such accusations, you may be ignoring it at your own peril. You may have grown used to their behaviors, to the point you don’t see something going on.
If they are taking medications or showing other symptoms, you’ll want to consult with a health professional. Sudden changes in behavior and thinking are never a good sign.
If there has been any recent traumas just prior to the accusations, you will want to consult with a health professional as well.
Ruling out medical or mental health issues may also save your marriage and keep you from fixing the wrong problem. Your observations about the accusations may be spot on, yet the source may be something you had not considered.
If you have gone ahead and ruled out any medical or mental health issues, then what you are facing may be related to someone else having or wishing they were having an affair.
It could also be that they somehow feel cheated regarding your time, affections and attentions. If your time, affection and attentions are directed elsewhere, your spouse knows that you are not available for them, yet they are not sure what is behind it, and an affair is their best guess.
When your spouse has “affairs on the brain”, you will want to take care of the situation as quickly as you can.
Best Regards,
Jeff
