When the building where our family business was hit by an arsonist a second time in just two months, my wife and I were ‘on edge’. That incident put us in a frame of mind where we watched all the cars going by. We also notice more things about our customers as well.
Although we had some good times, there was still an ‘uneasiness’ that it might just happen again. We wondered each night it the arsonist was going to strike again.
There were also plenty of ‘what if’ questions surrounding the arson episodes. Although the physical damage was repaired quickly, it took years regaining the ‘peace of mind’ that we lost.
The arsonist didn’t destroy our business, but sure wrecked our peace of mind for several years.
Affairs, like arson rob your peace of mind. Once an affair happens, you’re ‘on edge’. Instead of watching the cars and customers, you find yourself looking for threats from potential lovers in your surroundings. You wonder if something is going to happen tonight.
Apartment buildings you’ve driven past many times without second thoughts are now examined closely. You look for familiar cars and signs of potential dangers. You may even jump when you hear cell phones ring followed by wondering if it is ‘the lover’.
We had a good idea who was responsible for the arson, even though we couldn’t prove it. They lied when questioned about it. Suddenly they were ‘innocent’ as new fallen snow. Getting straight answers about the arson was not happening.
With affairs, you may know many things you can’t prove. You know the frustration of when those involved lie and feign innocence. You may not get straight answers for months.
Being in that place where you don’t have answers, and are ‘on edge’ is nightmarish. Your own imagination torments you with questions and ‘what ifs’. Your peace of mind is gone, stolen by the affair. You are in what I call the state of “Affair Trauma”.
The good news is that you don’t have to stay there. There are ways of getting your emotions and thinking ‘unstuck’. The video, “Dealing with Affair Trauma” gives you ways of getting out of that place.
Researchers are finding that some people get stuck in trauma and then can’t get out. You don’t have to be one of those who stays stuck. There are ways of calming yourself down and getting back to ‘normal’. The video will clear the path so that you can move past the trauma.
Best Regards,
Jeff
