Building a house from the ground up has many challenges and headaches. Yes, you get the house you want, but along the way, are multitudes of decisions you make.
You make decisions on fixtures, faucets door knobs and so much more. There are choices about the home and about the contractors.
One day, when my wife and I were building a home in the tiny coastal community of Shoreacres, Texas, I pulled our builder aside and asked him a personal question.
“How do you know which contractors you can trust?”
I wanted to know how he went about knowing who is trustworthy and who isn’t. With any construction project there are plenty of contractors wanting the job.
With all the choices, how do you decide? Do you make choices on convenience? On reputation? on trust? or some combination of everything?
With me, trust was important. It’s not just trusting someone to do the job, but also trusting them to show up on time, do the job right, be safe and not steal from the job site.
When you don’t know all your contractors, you have to have some formula or way of deciding who to trust, which is why I asked him how he determines who is trustworthy.
There comes a time when you’ll wonder if you can trust the cheater or not. When that time comes, do you know ‘how’ to determine if they are trustworthy? It’s going to take more than just looking at your spouse through a new pair of glasses.
When it comes time for determining trust, you need a solid formula rather than some warm fuzzy feelings or good vibes. If we had built a house using fuzzy feelings, good intentions or new glasses, everyone may have had a good time, but we’d have a lousy house.
I wanted a good house rather than a good time. I am one who wants a solid basis for determining trust.
This is why I put together the best formula on determining who you can trust and also when you can trust them. Rather than basing it on fuzzy feelings or good intentions, it’s based on solid concrete steps. If they are there, you can trust, if not, you can’t. It’s that simple.
You can also know what’s missing with the trust in your marriage.
In the video, “How Can I Trust You Again?”, I lay out my Trust Formula, so that you can know who you can trust, be it your spouse or others. The principles laid out can be used in knowing who you can trust in your life after the shock of an affair.
Best Regards,
Jeff
