Being ‘on the road’ or out of town on business trips stresses your marriage. With me, whenever there’s an extended period of no communication, my mind starts creating its own noise.
I find myself imagining situations and scenarios. There’s often a wrestling match between my imagination and my logical side. My imagination comes up with a ‘what if’ and the logic finds a way of defusing those ‘what ifs’.
One reason travel triggers more concerns is that some spouses remove any constraints when they are away from you. They are in a different town where they can be anonymous.
The travel factor multiplies the workplace risk of affairs. Whether you like it or not, today’s modern workplace where men and women mingle has risks. That risk start with fantasizing about relationships with co-workers. Although many of your spouses can resist such temptations, some can’t.
The Gottman Institute found that 2 out of 3 women, and 3 out of 4 men admit they have sexual thoughts about co-workers. Think through that for a moment.
It translates to 66% of women and 75% of men have such thoughts. These are numbers you can’t ignore. The odds are that your spouse is having sexual thoughts about a co-worker.
You also can’t change jobs all the time either. Dealing with the workplace challenge is now an everyday reality. It means that more than half the spouses are having sexual thoughts about co-workers.
When you throw travel into the mix, there’s now opportunities for acting out on those sexual thoughts. If you throw alcohol into the mix, there’s a lowering of inhibitions along with increased willingness to take risks.
The numbers are NOT in your favor. The odds are stacked against you when it comes to workplace fantasies and affairs.
Although the numbers aren’t in your favor, you’re not out of options. With the material presented in “How Can I Trust You Again?”, you’ll have the tools you need in diminishing the risk. You’ll know what is needed in strengthening the trust in your marriage.
Rather than guessing about what you can do and hoping for the best, you can know for certain whether or not you have a solid foundation of trust in your marriage.
You don’t have to lose your spouse to a co-worker. One quality of trust is that it puts a loving restraint on spouses prone to straying. When they restrain themselves because of trust, it’s the next best thing to you being there.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
