Facing Hope Against Hope Moments

One of the expressions in the English language that causes you to ponder what it means is the phrase “hope against hope”. The expression, first found in Romans 4:18 has stumped rhetoricians and theologians for centuries. Although the expression stumps some, those of you with cheating spouses have likely experienced it.

There are times when you found yourself hoping with part of yourself while another part of you sees no reason to hope. It’s as if your heart and mind are in two separate worlds. With a foot in each world, what makes sense in one is foolishness in the other.

When it comes to affairs, you know what it’s like to hope when you have little or nothing to base it on. When you do start hoping against hope, not all your friends will understand.

When your friends see little or no hope they’ll encourage you to ‘dump the chump’ or ‘ditch the witch’.  They don’t see your marriage with the same eyes that you do.

The odd thing is that a window of opportunity does exist for a period of time, even after the cheater leaves. This window often has a duration of about two years. How you handle the situation during that time makes a big difference.

One thing your spouse looks for is ‘real change’. They want to make sure you’re not just saying things or that you are doing things based on a friend’s recommendation. They want the assurance that things are coming from your heart and that you mean them.

If you’re playing games or being manipulative, they’ll sense it. They know at some level when you’re acting and when you’re real.

The best way of starting such change is with forgiveness. Your heart is going to be filled with something, be it anger, sadness, resentment or love.  There is no vacuum or emptiness when it comes to hearts. Something is going to fill it.

If you haven’t forgiven your spouse they’ll know that whatever is in your heart isn’t love. When there isn’t love, there isn’t much hope. That forgiveness thing starts a whole chain reaction of change when it’s done right.

Your spouse may be testing you and your heart to see what’s really in there. They’ll test you to see if they are truly a priority. When those tests come, there are not always second chances. That means that you need to be ready when the test comes.

With forgiveness, you start making changes in what’s in your heart. Once you forgive, there’s space in your heart for them. This is why you need the video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks“.

When you face a ‘hope against hope‘ moment, what’s in your heart matters. If you want the change to start, it begins moments after you order and download the video which guides you through forgiveness and begins the changes in you.

Best Regards,

Jeff

 

 

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