At one point in my life I was car-less and needing transportation. In finding a solution to my situation, I visited the Bighorn Auto Sales car lot on Spencer Highway. It was a pay by the week type of operation. Since I needed transportation, I was keeping my options open.
Each car had the price on the window, along with a sticker indicating “As Is” in large bold letters. Those used cars didn’t come with warranties or service agreements. You bought them ‘as is’. What you saw is what you purchased. The stickers had me wondering “What am I getting myself into?”
In my case, the Monte Carlo I purchased worked out fine. Week by week I finally paid it off which felt good and improved my credit.
There are times I wish that spouses came with the same “As Is” sticker on them. This is especially true in the aftermath of affairs when the issue of forgiveness comes around. There are times you have to accept your spouse “As Is”.
Your spouse isn’t backed by a service department, neither do they come with a warranty. You may have ‘expectations’ and high hopes, but the reality is, there are no guarantees. There is no guarantee that there will be no future affairs.
Sure, they may make promises to you, but after their affair, you already know what their promises are worth.
So, when you find yourself with no guarantee or warranty, what do you do?
One thing you do quickly, is start doing preventative maintenance. You do things that reduce the risk of another affair. You inspect and make sure your connections with your spouse are intact. You take steps that improve the quality of communication.
One part of preventative maintenance that always pays off is ‘forgiveness’. No spouse enjoys coming home to someone who continues holding a grudge.
What you really feel toward your spouse shows through. That look on your face that you thought was hiding your ‘true feelings’ may be pushing your spouse away.
The video, “Forgiveness: Stop the Hurt, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks ” guides you through the forgiveness part of your affair recovery. Forgiveness is what makes it possible to accept your spouse “As Is”. The sooner you order your copy and put it into practice, the sooner your relationship improves.
Accepting your spouse “As Is” doesn’t have to be a scary proposition. With ‘Forgiveness’, you can have solid connections with your spouse and their heart which is critical to long term relationships. You can once again have peace of mind in your marriage.
Best Regards,
Jeff
