Have you ever considered “What comes after forgiveness?” Once you remove the bitterness and animosity inside of you and the barriers that kept the two of you apart, what then?
For some of you, it’s a dream come true. What you’ve been hoping for and praying for has happened.
The walls are gone, the roadblocks removed and you’re now free to re-connect with your spouse. You see new potentials and possibilities.
It’s like the discouraging dark clouds that had you down are gone. At that point, you are faced with rebuilding.
If your marriage survived the affair, there’s work for the two of you to do in re-connecting and making new memories. You’ll also face the temptation of ‘looking back’ and re-opening old wounds.
You may have grown so used to being in crisis mode, that you feel weird and uncomfortable not being in it. It feels more normal to be in crisis than to not be.
When that happens, you’ll experience anxiety about things going too well. You’ll wonder what is secretly going on. If nothing is going on, there’s a temptation to make something happen.
In such cases, the temptation is to trigger a crisis. When it’s scarier facing a life without conflict and crisis than with crises, you’ve gotten too familiar with crisis.
During this time, you’ll be re-discovering the person you married. Since you’ve done the forgiveness work, you’ll be able to see them in a new way. Seeing them anew helps you feel alive again.
If your marriage didn’t work out, you still have rebuilding to do. In this case, you’ve got to rebuild your life. You lost a major part of yourself and now you’ve got to pick up the pieces and move on with life.
The option of not moving ahead means your stagnating and getting sicker. Staying in one place may feel safe, yet it takes some unhealthy behaviors to keep you in one place. Using the affair as a crutch to avoid change will keep you sick.
The journey starts with forgiveness. Without forgiveness, you remain mired in the emotional quagmire. That quagmire keeps you stuck in neutral.
You are not moving ahead, not making changes, not healing. Without forgiveness, you’re stuck. Even when you do get out of the quagmire, the stench of that mire clings to you.
Many changes and resolutions start with forgiveness. That’s because with forgiveness you are actually taking action and changing things.
With forgiveness, you quit playing the victim. You quit blaming others for what’s going on inside of you and your situation. You can’t play victim and have forgiveness at the same time.
There’s a time for the anger and emotional outbursts. There’s also a time when they need resolving and you need to move on. Forgiveness is the way to do that.
The video “Forgiveness: Stop the Pain, Tear down the Walls and Remove the Roadblocks” guides you through forgiveness. The direct connect method (TM) allows the forgiveness to occur in your head and your heart. This approach helps you ‘get yourself together’ rather than feeling like a ping pong ball going from one extreme to another.
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Best Regards,
Jeff
