Have you ever had one of those moments where something is so unsettling it shakes you up inside while your mind fills with "That could have been me" type of comments.
After returning home from a trip to Costa Rica, I read reports of a large earthquake with the associated mudslides since it was rainy season. On watching the news reports coming out of the country, I recognized the location and mountain roads involved.
The news that sank a shaft into the bull's eye was the report of the epicenter of the quake being two miles offshore from where we stayed. Later I received word that the home we stayed in experienced major damage.
I recalled watching the peaceful sunsets from our back porch from there. It was unreal hearing that the epicenter of the quake was there.
I recalled having driven on those roads just weeks before. In disbelief, I turn to my wife and say "We were there a couple of weeks ago. That could have been us."
Such incidents are reminders of how things can change quickly. We managed avoiding a natural disaster but didn't know it at the time. Incidents like those leave me uneasy for a few days afterwards. At those times, I express gratitude for timing and protection for unknown close calls we survived.
When it comes to the risk of an affair relapse, are you living in dangerous circumstances? Are there dangers around you that you don't see?
Even when the cheater returns back home, there's often hidden dangers. Like a ticking time bomb, or potential earthquake, things can suddenly change. You may even wonder if something you confronted them about may be the very thing that triggers them into relapse.
It may not even be you. It could be someone at work or something posted on social media that starts a series of events that change your life again. You know what it's like facing situations where you are out of control. You've been there and don't want to go there for an encore.
I didn't know what the early warning signs were for an earthquake, which left me totally unawares.
The good thing is that you don't have to be totally unaware of a 'natural disaster' happening in your own home. The video "Overcoming Affair Relapse" guides you in the warning signs of relapse, identifying triggers, high risk situations and more. You'll know the key parts of putting together a relapse prevention plan so that you won't be caught unawares.
You don't have to be one of those people surrounded by disaster saying "I wish I had seen this coming."