You’ve likely come across those ice breaker questions about what ten people from history you would want to host at a dinner party. I find such questions thought provoking.
It stretches my mind thinking about who would be there along with what kind of conversations would happen. Given that I’ve attended ‘boardroom dinners’ where specialists from various fields are brought together, I’ve had a glimpse of what may happen.
In real life, I’ve been blessed having met with many of the leading thinkers and counselors. I made it a point to either meet or hear them through the years. I suppose I could’ve literally had a dinner conversation with the top 10 figures from counseling and psychology.
One of the leading counselors I met was Terence Gorski, who’s THE leading figure in relapse prevention. Since I make it a point of collecting nuggets of knowledge and wisdom wherever I can, I was eager to hear what Terence had to say.
The nugget I found most intriguing from what he said was that “Relapse works from the inside out“.
Think about that for a moment.
The expert in relapse prevention just pointed out where the relapse begins. It starts on the inside. This is where the trigger that sets off relapse is located. This is where you want to intervene.
The relapse doesn’t start from someone making a pass at them, or some neon sign luring them in. It starts with the person making choices inside.
Relapses, including affair relapses start with choices the cheater makes inside of themselves. If their heart and head aren’t in the right place, relapse is only a matter of time.
They make decisions and then look for opportunities.
They make decisions and then look for excuses.
Relapse begins on the inside before it happens on the outside.
When you realize where relapse begins, it makes it clearer where you need to focus your efforts at recovery from an affair. Knowing where the problems are goes a long way in dealing with them.
In the video “Overcoming Affair Relapse” I guide you in understanding and dealing with affair relapse. Knowing what to do in preventing it from happening gives your recovery from the affair a greater likelihood of success.
Rather than wonder what you can do, click the link, fill out the form and start taking action today.
Best Regards,
Jeff
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Yes…just listened to a teaching today and one of the first statements made was “the devil cannot make anyone do anything they don’t want to do ”
The scriptures exhort us to study and rightly divide the Word to be able to think rightly ….righteous thoughts are based upon right doctrine …the “renewed mind” filled with the wisdom of Gods Word addressed to us during the dispensation of Grace provided great thoughts of Truth about sin which grows in its influencial power against the urges the flesh provokes us to act upon
The individualizations of temptations is a battle plan against the sinner as the enemy of our souls is well equipped with observations of areas we don’t protect from making choices based upon urges….cultural assaults that make sin seem inconsequential when we think we don’t “need” to consider consequences …..the “armour of Gods Word is exchanged for the culturally correct suit of compromise
In the end it’s really more like the “emperors new clothes” which leaves the man of Adam’s image naked to temptation and deception
The new man in Christ needs to nutrition of the bread which came down from heaven and to agree that he (or she) is no match for the enemy of our souls .the devil who prowled around seeking whom he can devour with one juicy taste of a man pleasing choice
The wages of sin is death ….as a saved person Christ paid our debt in full yet to live our lives growing up in faith we need to study the Word and enjoy a great meal of right doctrine as God will provide
The change indeed is necessary to learn what is given a free gift to any who will receive the gospel of Grace becoming a member of the Body of Christ …the NEW CREATION
Then to learn what that means …it’s amazing despite the way the world may continue to surprise or disappont
We have a lot to live for as we do so
Zaza,
With relapse starting on the inside, becoming a new person from the inside out becomes a priority. Many continue struggling with affair relapse or serial affairs because they merely change the outside. Like changing the display windows, they only change the look, not what’s inside the store.
A new creation, on the other hand, means new on the inside AND on the outside. We are not recycled products. Recovery is not about recycling, it’s about renewing.
Best Regards,
Jeff
Yes….so true
For any transforming of this kind to happen it does take the willingness of the person for the information to tKe effect
I see this in scripture proclaimed that faith comes. H hearing and hearing by the Word of God ….and that is distinctjished as dispensations indicate what must be heard…..which instructions and to whom
The scriptures also tell us that the gospel must be “received with meekness”
Jesus came to the Israelites and there was a necessity for them to make the connection between the information they had from the prophets which would help them identify their Messiah
As the leadership rejected Jesus Christ as the Messiah few of the Israelites received the news John the Baptist proclaimed and followed Him as the Messiah despite the identifying fulfillments His ministry demonstrated that He was indeed their promised Messiah
Their expectations of their Messiah coming as the conquering King blinded them to the truth their Messiah would come first as the suffering servant
They rebelled in the Old Testsment against God the Fabter ……they rebelled during Jesus ministry to Israel as recorded in the four Gospels and they finally denied Him as the Holy Spirit brought them one last opportunity to receive Jesus Christ as their Messiah when they stoned Steohan upon his convicting declaration.
At that point God turned to reaching the whole world through His mystery plan hid in Him from before the the world began
Israel was originally created a nation by way of Abraham s decendents ….Israel was to be a nation of priests through whom the world would learn of God
The covenant we made with Abraham that his decendents would have the land
Gentiles had no covenant ….and no relationship with God except if they came through Israel as converts …. becoming circumcised….and walked accorofng to th law’s God provided for Israel to keep….which was to bring them to understand their need for a savior …..
When Israel “fell” as Paul relayed the Word Jesus Christ gave him God installed the mystery plan kept secret from before the World began
Peter preached the gospel of the kingdom known to them through the Prophets of Gods program for Israel
When they didn’t receive Jesus Christ as their Messiah when he came the first time ….when they realize He is the Messiah after the church of the.Body is taken up ….they will cry out for Him ….
That would be the way the Old Testamnet instructions and Jesus Christ’s own directions would come to pass “If Israel would pray and cry out to Him….”
Daniel prayed the prayer that was to be the NATION of Israel’s prayer for the Messiah to come ….His praying it was corrected by the angel who told him that it had to be the whole nation to pray it
After the church of the Body of Christ is removed God will fulfill His promise to Israel….He is not a liar….He will perform what He has promised
This truth is significant ….as those who recognize that Jesus Christ came in the flesh once will not be confused by the antiChrist when he comes on the scene
Those who don’t think their Messiah has come and thus would only receive one who resembles what they are expencting in their error
Those who have come to read and understand that He came once would trust Him as Saviour and would read and understand the scriptures concerning Him and also the distinctions of what the deceiver would appear and do
They would people born after the church of the mystery was already received into heaven at the time of the fulfillment of the Grace adminstrarion…
Seeing the arc of history that the Bible reveals is illuminating and conforting
Those in the. Key of Christ who have believed the gospel Paul preached are given the understanding through the study and right dividing of the times and seasons providing th distinctions between Israel and the church of the Body ….between what is written for our learning and what is written TO us in this Grace administration of the Body
The church of the Body is made up of both Jew and Gentile and there is no distinction IN Christ as Saviour
They have a heavenly citizenship where as Israel has been promised an earthly kingdom
The church as no more sacrifice for sin as Jesus Christ finished the necessity for payment for sins of the whole world
Many distinctions come clear when we divide scripture between “time past”….”but now” and “ages to come”
Between what is “prophecy” and what is “Mystery ”
Between what is a “nation” and what is the “Body”
And other distinctions found within the scriptures which clarify how God does not change but how He works with people and groups changes as the people respond to His instructions or not
For a person who claims to believe in Jesus Christ there is the command to study and rightly divide what He is to apply to his walk which brings about the transformation in his life through words ….The Word being Jesus Christ living through those who believe and do this …..
Romnas 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Our new identity in Christ is true but it becomes more and more evident as we learn what is written TO US and for us and our minds are transformed to direct our choices and decisions
The knowledge of the truth of what we have in Christ enables us and comforts us and gives us strength to continue to grow up I. Our new identity
In an age where people are concerned with their identity there is some truth in how they understand a “fluidity” as our life can change according to how we think and then act upon that information
Much confusion abounds with the lack of understanding of how perfectly our God has provided for us to know what is true and why our lives have purpose as we come to know who we are in Christ
The confusion about identity is not because of God but the devil knows if we don’t have the truth and understand what God has done for us and then in those who receive the truth ofbthe gospel of salvation ….they will. By anything that their thoughts compel them to think
The instructions for the Bible is to receive the Word of God as it is able to save the soul and to know those things provided for us to avoid deceptions that abound and are going to come to the mind unprepared with truth so as to contend for the faith both within and without
So the truth of changing within is indeed important for a change in how we think and this how we make choices
Living life by feelings and appetites subjects is to the way temptations target our lives in those areas where we have preferences based upon feelings and ideas often “sold” to us through the five senses by the world the flesh and yes…the devil ….
Let God be true and every man a liar in that when reading scripture we recognize God is right and true and it is ourselves that need to allow that we can be taught if we are willing to continue to trust He will guide us into all truth as we continue in His Word
Thanks Jeff for your continuing to reach out through your various means to offer helps to hurting people
Corrections to typos
yes….so true
For any transforming of this kind to happen it does take the willingness of the person for the information to take eeffect
I see this in scripture proclaimed that faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God ….and that is distinguished as dispensations indicate what must be heard…..which instructions and to whom
The scriptures also tell us that the gospel must be “received with meekness”
Jesus came to the Israelites and there was a necessity for them to make the connection between the information they had from the prophets which would help them identify their Messiah
As the leadership rejected Jesus Christ as the Messiah few of the Israelites received the news John the Baptist proclaimed about Jesus to believe and follow Him as the Messiah despite the identifying fulfillments His ministry demonstrated that He was indeed their promised Messiah
Their expectations of their Messiah coming as the conquering King blinded them to the truth their Messiah would come first as the suffering servant
They rebelled in the Old Testsment against God the Father ……they rebelled during Jesus ministry to Israel as recorded in the four Gospels rejected the Son and they finally denied the Holy Spirit as Stephan brought them one last opportunity to receive Jesus Christ as their Messiah when they stoned Steohan upon his convicting declaration.
At that point God turned to reaching the whole world through His mystery plan hid in Him from before the the world began
Israel was originally created a nation by way of Abraham s decendents ….Israel was to be a nation of priests through whom the world would learn of God
The covenant God made with Abraham that his decendents would have the land
Gentiles had no covenant ….and no relationship with God except if they came through Israel as converts …. becoming circumcised….and walked accorofng to th law’s God provided for Israel to keep….which was to bring them to understand their need for a savior …..
When Israel “fell” as Paul relayed the Word Jesus Christ gave him God installed the mystery plan kept secret from before the World began
Peter preached the gospel of the kingdom known to them through the Prophets of Gods program for Israel
When they didn’t receive Jesus Christ as their Messiah when he came the first time ….when they finally do realize He is the Messiah after the church of the.Body is taken up ….they will cry out for Him ….
That would be the way the Old Testamnet instructions and Jesus Christ’s own directions would come to pass “If Israel would pray and cry out to Him…recognizing Him as their Messiah.”
Daniel prayed the prayer that was to be the NATION of Israel’s prayer for the Messiah to come ….His praying it was corrected by the angel who told him that it had to be the whole nation to pray it
After the church of the Body of Christ is removed God will fulfill His promise to Israel….He is not a liar….He will perform what He has promised
Those who don’t think their Messiah has come and thus would only receive one who resembles what they are expencting in their error
Those who have come to read and understand that He came once would trust Him as Saviour and would read and understand the scriptures concerning Him and also the distinctions of what the deceiver would appear and do
Seeing the arc of history that the Bible reveals is illuminating and conforting
Those in the. Body of Christ who have believed the gospel Paul preached are given the understanding through the study and right dividing of the times and seasons providing th distinctions between Israel and the church of the Body ….between what is written for our learning and what is written TO us in this Grace administration of the Body
The church of the Body is made up of both Jew and Gentile and there is no distinction IN Christ as Saviour
They have a heavenly citizenship where as Israel has been promised an earthly kingdom
The church as no more sacrifice for sin as Jesus Christ finished the necessity for payment for sins of the whole world
Many distinctions come clear when we divide scripture between “time past”….”but now” and “ages to come”
Between what is “prophecy” and what is “Mystery ”
Between what is a “nation” and what is the “Body”
And other distinctions found within the scriptures which clarify how God does not change but how He works with people and groups changes as the people respond to His instructions or not
For a person who claims to believe in Jesus Christ there is the command to study and rightly divide what He is to apply to his walk which brings about the transformation in his life through words ….The Word being Jesus Christ living through those who believe and do this …..
Romnas 12:2 And be not conformed to this world: but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good, and acceptable, and perfect, will of God.
Our new identity in Christ is true but it becomes more and more evident as we learn what is written TO US and for us and our minds are transformed to direct our choices and decisions
The knowledge of the truth of what we have in Christ enables us and comforts us and gives us strength to continue to grow up I. Our new identity
In an age where people are concerned with their identity there is some truth in how they understand a “fluidity” as our life can change according to how we think and then act upon that information
Much confusion abounds with the lack of understanding of how perfectly our God has provided for us to know what is true and why our lives have purpose as we come to know who we are in Christ
The confusion about identity is not because of God but the devil knows if we don’t have the truth and understand what God has done for us and then in those who receive the truth ofbthe gospel of salvation ….they will. By anything that their thoughts compel them to think
The instructions for the Bible is to receive the Word of God as it is able to save the soul and to know those things provided for us to avoid deceptions that abound and are going to come to the mind unprepared with truth so as to contend for the faith both within and without
So the truth of changing within is indeed important for a change in how we think and this how we make choices
Living life by feelings and appetites subjects is to the way temptations target our lives in those areas where we have preferences based upon feelings and ideas often “sold” to us through the five senses by the world the flesh and yes…the devil ….
Let God be true and every man a liar in that when reading scripture we recognize God is right and true and it is ourselves that need to allow that we can be taught if we are willing to continue to trust He will guide us into all truth as we continue in His Word
Thanks Jeff for your continuing to reach out through your various means to offer helps to hurting people