Hurricanes, Fear and Affairs

The on-going saga of Hurricane Harvey stirred up many memories and emotions for me. Having grown up on the Texas gulf coast, I am more familiar with hurricanes that I’d like. I even sat down and recalled the ones I’ve gone through beginning with Hurricane Carla.

One of the feelings stirred up by the hurricanes is fear. There were some storms where the feeling was so strong you could feel it in the air.

Everywhere you looked or went, there were some elements of fear, especially during the days of preparation before they hit. I call it fear rather than anxiety, since you know specifically what you are uneasy about.

You feel the fear in line at the grocery store, at the gas pump and in the restaurants. That fear creates a whole atmosphere or restless dis-ease.

No matter how you try calming yourself down, you’re restless. Even when you try appearing cool, you’re not fully at ease. Although there’s a calm before storm arrives, inside you are uneasy.

Fear is a both powerful and contagious. One fearful person soon creates many fearful persons. For that matter, one fearful generation creates fearful children.

Like other powerful emotions, fear also has an addictive quality. You can become a fear addict.

There are times I wonder if those of you who thrive on horror movies may have a tinge of fear addiction. Some of you may enjoy the adrenaline rush accompanying strong fear reactions.

Although fear helps you prepare for hurricanes, it damages marriages and relationships. The dual dangers of its addictive quality and its contagious quality means that it easily overpowers relationships.

Fear can take a good marriage and turn it into something freakish. It can make your marriage desperate, starving or emaciated in a short period of time. Your own fears may suck the life and vibrancy out of your marriage.

The longer you stay in a state of fear, the greater the risk it poses to your marriage and your health. Actually, the longer you stay in fear, the greater the risk of affairs as well. In the case of fear driven affair situations, the cheater intentionally looks for someone dangerous.

They are so addicted to fear, they find themselves attracted to it. Dangerous people and situations draw them like a magnet.

If you’re going through affair recovery, it’s important getting a handle on the fear. If your fear is not dealt with, it’s only a matter of time before it grows to an overwhelming size.

This is why the video, “Overcoming Affair Trauma” is so important. It guides you in moving past the fear and learning ways of calming your emotions down.

That lingering fear isn’t doing you or your spouse any good. The sooner you overcome it, the greater the chances of your recovery being successful.

Best Regards,

Jeff

 

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