Have you ever heard the phrase ”Life imitates Art?” It’s often used when making comparisons between real life and movie portrayals. Although there are times when your life may feel like a movie, I’ve found that real life is uglier and harsher than the movies.
I was reminded of this when reading a recent article on a serial killed called the “Yorkshire Ripper”. The ‘ripper’ went on a killing spree over the years.
During that time, at least 13 women were murdered. It reminded me how ugly real life can be.
In his case, digging a little deeper, you find an affair. The ugly connection between affairs and crimes of passion shows up more than I like.
There are lessons you can learn from the life of the ripper. In his case, both parents cheated. A major event in his life was when his father exposed his mothers infidelity in a highly dramatic manner. In that moment, his image of his mother being perfect shattered.
That moment traumatized him. It left a scar that twisted the rest of his life and how he viewed women from then on.
Hollywood glamorizes affairs. The film industry makes them look enticing rather than show where they eventually lead. In real life affairs, everyone loses.
Not only does everyone in the family lose when an affair happens, it also brings trauma and long term effects.
The longer the trauma is ignored, the bigger the problems each person has in bouncing back from the affair. The paradox is that although you will bounce back externally, on the inside the wound remains raw. Over time those emotional and mental wounds fester.
There are always long term effects from affairs. Even when no one was caught or discovers it. The long term effects eventually catch up to you.
One of those long term effects is the trauma. Although you may have mentally accepted that the affair happened and adjusted to it, that doesn’t mean your body has.
The trauma of an affair impacts your body even when you don’t show it on the outside. The trauma changed you down to a cellular level. Acting like your okay won’t make those changes go away.
Everyone in the family is touched by an affair. Trauma leaves its mark on each family member. That’s why it’s so important to deal with the trauma. There are ways of calming your body down and restoring its functioning.
In the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma“, you’ll learn what happened to you along with ways of healing on the inside and outside from what happened. In overcoming the trauma, you also bring closure to what happened in your life and its effects on the inside of you and the members of your family.
Best Regards,
Jeff
