These days you hear a great deal about ‘hate’. From the stories you see on the news, you’d think that hate is the biggest problem in America. The whole issue of hate is painted so harshly, it polarizes whole populations.
Hate is a weird thing. Although it’s currently not in fashion, you NEED it when dealing with affairs.
If you don’t hate enough, you’re going to have problems. You’ll have more problems with hating too little than hating too much when it comes to affairs.
I know the awkwardness of hating. It took me a while before I saw the benefit of hating. You need the energy hate provides in overcoming the affair. Hate actually protects you from some potential dangers.
It took me a while to give myself permission to hate. It took me a while to be comfortable with hate. The longer I work with affairs, the more I’ve learned to hate them.
You’ll never have victory over the affair until you learn how to hate it. As long as you have love for the affair, you’ll not be free of it.
If all you do is love, you cover up and hide things. Love makes excuses for people and situations. Hate on the other hand confronts, takes stands and removes the dangers associated with the affair. It’s hate that sees potential dangers.
Even St. Paul saw this danger when he told people to “speak the truth in love”. He knew that love alone would water things down and overlook the truth. You need both.
Hate gives you the energy to speak truthfully in tough situations. You still have to love the cheater, but HATE the affair. You love the cheater, but hate the lying.
Hating the affair and the lying also means not associating with bad influences. Instead of surrounding yourself with lies and bad influences, you avoid them.
Hating means removing any influences promoting infidelity from your home. Hate gives you the energy for removing those influences.
When you hate affairs, and the lying, you remove the possibility of them happening from your life. If you don’t have enough hate, you leave the door open to future affairs in your marriage.
There are enough pressures on marriage today without you hating enough. Although I liked the Beatles idea of “All you need is love”, they were wrong. When it comes to affairs, you need more than love. You also need a heaping measure of hate.
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Best Regards,
Jeff
