One of the old humorous sayings in the 19th century was “Everyone talks about the weather, but no one does anything about it”. When the saying first appeared in an editorial in a Connecticut newspaper, it was unsigned.
The quote has been attributed to both Mark Twain and Charles Warner. Apparently people talk about the joke, but no one takes credit for it either.
I mention the weather joke since when the topic of affairs comes up, everyone talks about them, but few people do anything about them in making serious changes. This observation in the aftermath of attending a funeral.
While in the receiving line, I was asked what I do. On telling them that I help couples recover from affairs, I often received some affirming response followed by some version of “people need that”.
It struck me that affairs are often discussed the same way medical conditions like cancer are discussed, with hushed voices and little self disclosure.
It amazes me how affairs are viewed as something that others need even when your own marriage may be at risk. Few of you want more affairs, yet are you going to do anything about them?
Are you making your marriage stronger? What are you doing that alleviates your spouse’s secret fears? Do you even know what your spouse’s secret fears are?
What are you doing that affirms and validates your spouse?
Do you know the best way of validating them?
Every day your marriage is either getting stronger or weaker. If you’re not strengthening your marriage, then by default, you’re allowing it to atrophy. Most of you wait until your marriage is in crisis before taking action.
Perhaps the old joke needs rewording to say, ‘Everyone talks about marriage, but no one does anything to improve it” (at least until a crisis comes).
Today is a good day for changing that. You can do things that strengthen your marriage. The “30 Days to A Better Marriage” program guides you through steps that improve your marriage relationship.
You can do something that makes your marriage better. When you follow it for the 30 days, you’ll find power in your marriage that you never imagined.
Technology has made communication more accessible, yet has also done more to isolate spouses and confuse their communication. You can do something about that today.
Best Regards,
Jeff
