Lately I’ve found myself traveling more frequently. On arriving home, I’m never sure what surprises are waiting for me that my dogs have done.
One night, Peggy and I came home only to discover one of the burners on the stove turned on and our home several degrees hotter than the thermostat setting. One of our dogs inadvertently turned it on while counter surfing.
Although I don’t know which specific dog did it, I have a good idea, given that our coon hound is the most proficient at counter surfing. We’ve got a counter surfer, a chewer and blind opener. Together, they teach each other bad lessons.
Prior to unlocking the front door, I wonder, “what have the dogs done this time?” After the burner episode, I feel leery about leaving them alone.
I find myself hesitant about trusting them alone again after seeing what they can do.
It’s funny how after one incident like that I have a long-lasting apprehension. Although we now have quite a story to tell, it wasn’t fun when it happened.
In a similar manner one little incident or episode can take away your peace of mind. When it’s your spouse messing up rather than the dogs, things are personal.
It’s one thing when I’m uneasy about leaving the dogs alone. It’s quite another when you can’t leave your spouse alone or trust them by themselves.
Sure the two of you may have discussed ‘the incident’, but that doesn’t mean that damage has been repaired. The damaged trust still needs attention.
Dismissing what your spouse did won’t lessen the possibility of it happening again. With human nature, the best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. When one incident damaged the trust, it signals that some changes are needed.
The video “How can I trust you again?” guides you in repairing the damaged trust. Since the two of you can’t always be watching each other, you can’t use that method. Eventually, you’ll have to deal with the trust issues.
With the video, you can know what specific part of trust to fix. Rather than guessing at solutions to trust issues, you can zero in on the specific area needing attention.
Rather than being tormented with “I wonder what she’s up to?”, you can instead have peace of mind.
Best Regards,
Jeff
