Anytime you come across old friends, those old memories come back. At one recent get together I met an old friend and we began sharing stories.
He was known for his prankish stunts. Each one seemed more outlandish than the previous one.
One of the stories he shared concerned a time he rearranged the traffic barrels on a roadway late at night. His escapade led to an 18-wheeler being directed onto a dead end road. The truck ended up having to back their way out of the dead end he drove into.
Although the story made for some laughs, for the trucker, it was no laughing matter. Being sent the wrong way was no fun for him.
He was only following the directions and signs given to him. They just happened to be the wrong directions.
When it comes to affair recovery, being sent the wrong way into a dead end is no fun either. Many of the books and experts don’t give you the directions you need.
For example, in going through the top affair recovery books on Amazon, only one addressed affair relapse. Even then it was only for four pages.
Think about that, with all the dangers of affair relapse, only one out of five books addresses it and then only for four pages. With the importance of affair relapse and the danger it poses, you’d think there would be more help.
Consider that after you go through all the work of recovery that few, if any of the books address preparing you for the dangers of affair relapse. When they don’t even mention it, how are they going to prepare you for it?
Just talking about the affair is not enough. You need a firm affair relapse plan. When few books even address it, what’s the likelihood you have such a plan?
What’s the likelihood that it’s a good plan?
You need a plan that helps you and the cheater go from “I can do it by myself” thinking to “I need help” thinking. If you don’t change the thinking, it’s only going to be a matter of time before relapse happens.
I know that a good affair relapse plan makes a huge difference. You don’t want a few moments of weakness or temptation destroying all the work the two of you have done.
In the video “Overcoming Affair Relapse” I deal with these issues and more. You can know about triggers along with ways of dealing with them along with high risk situations. The more you know about these areas, the better you can deal with them.
Ending the affair is only one part of affair recovery. Learning to live and overcome life after the affair is when the changes become real.
Keeping It Real,
Jeff
