Harvey Weinstein and Affair Trauma

Over the past few weeks, you’ve likely heard about the Harvey Weinstein story. Each day, new accusations arise along with accounts of how others remained silent about what happened to them.

I’m not shocked at what he did. The world is full of  abuse their power. The surprise is how wide spread his impact was.

Movies are designed to have you identify with some of the characters. With that in mind, hearing of their real life traumas triggers  identification regarding the traumas. Just hearing news of what happened sends you to dark place.

At times the public wonders why the victims of trauma don’t speak out. Those who haven’t gone through such trauma don’t understand the big picture.

When you’ve been traumatized, it changes you and your brain. Feelings of shame and self-loathing take over. Fears of abandonment and anxiety fill your heart and mind.

Experiencing trauma from a powerful figure intensifies your feelings of helplessness. You have a double dose of trauma, the abuse and the being victimized by a powerful figure.

When you experience a racing heart, breathing difficulties, stomach pains and intestinal ailments you think something is wrong with you .

You have the choice of making the symptoms worse by speaking out concerning what happened or keeping your symptoms under control, self-preservation becomes very important.

When your career or life are threatened by powerful people, you bury the trauma deep inside. It’s easier thinking something is wrong with you rather than question the wrongness of what was done to you or what your spouse did.

Those changes brought on by the trauma don’t go away on their own. The longer you keep them buried, the more long term damage they do.

Hearing about your spouse’s affair may trigger old traumas in your life. Traumas have a way of connecting with each other.

One triggers the other. Your mind searches your memory banks for similar feelings and how to cope. If you’ve had previous traumas, it’s likely that your mind will do what it did before.

In  most situations, you’ll find yourself  coping the same way you did before. Even when your mind doesn’t remember what happen does.

This is where the video “Overcoming Affair Trauma” can help you. If you’ve stuffed your reactions, you can learn ways of moving past them. Those effects, even from years ago, can keep you stuck.

Not everyone gets stuck. If you are one of those who gets stuck, you no longer have to suffer. When you are stuck, you need professional strength tools for pulling out of it.

The good news is that you don’t have to stay stuck in the trauma. You can move past it. Since your mind is stuck, it may take several viewings before your mind clears up. That’s okay. Recovering from traumas and affairs are messy.

Although you want to be in control of your life, letting fears of mess keep you from healing only makes things worse. Getting relief is well worth some temporary messiness.

Best Regards,

Jeff

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