During my teen years, I found myself receiving my share of tickets for various traffic offenses. After receiving several, the decision was made that I needed to learn a lesson.
To this day, I don’t know if it was my father’s idea or his lawyer’s idea that was behind the lesson. What they decided was for me to stay in Pasadena traffic court all day and sweat out what may happen.
They kept the fact that the offense was dismissed from me to ‘teach’ me a lesson. So, for several hours, I sat nervously in the courtroom waiting for my name to be called. I suppose they were entertained by the idea, but I wasn’t.
The episode illustrates the principle of “Prices teach us.” When you pay the price for something, it’s part of your education. In my case, I paid the price of sitting in court all day.
Prices are for more things that are merely stating value. They also teach us that there are consequences to actions, along with showing you where you are behaving in an unhealthy manner.
When your spouse cheats, it’s important that they experience the price of consequences. Those consequences are a way of teaching them things.
For many, when there is no price, they don’t learn the lesson being taught. The exceptions are life-threatening situations and when the consequences hurt your family.
If your situation is not one of the exceptions, consider the benefit of allowing the “Price teach them” some important lessons. When you allow prices to teach, it’s important accepting that pain is your friend.
The simple truth is “Prices teach us.” Those things we pay prices for, teach you lessons.
Many people only change their ways when they encounter pain. Although you don’t want them to hurt, some cheaters only change when in pain, especially when it comes to affair relapse.
When you remove their hurts or dampen the consequences, you limit what they learn.
If they don’t hurt, they don’t change.
The more you know about what it takes for a good relapse prevention plan, the greater your chances of moving past the affair. {relapse}
Best Regards,
Jeff
