When something touches your personal space, it magnifies every challenge in your life. Recently, a leak flooded my closet with water.
Prior to this incident, I’d never thought of my closet as a significant part of my personal space. Now, I realize it’s a very important part of personal space.
My clothes are now in several locations around our home as repairs and remediation takes care of the problem. The whole episode has led to exaggeration of other issues.
With my personal space touched, I have no retreat or island of safety in facing daily challenges and stressors. There’s no place I can retreat to. Every part of my home has been touched in some way by the invasion of the leak.
Affairs touch your personal space. They invade your physical, emotional and spiritual personal space. Any place you went in your head or physically to regroup has been affected. It touches everything from your bed and car to your closet.
The loss of your personal space means that there’s little to no emotional recharging. You have to face the daily challenges with no retreat. There’s no safe place for pulling yourself together.
When all your retreats are cut off, what do you do? It’s at these times, you find out where and what your go to is. The temptation of running away is strong.
These are times when setting boundaries is critical. When you don’t have safe personal space, you have to create one.
When you’re not used to setting boundaries, this phase of recovery is stressful. In the download, ‘Affair Recovery Workshop‘, you’ll learn about boundaries and setting them up.
I invite you to join me with the workshop. When your back is against the wall, there are things you can do. They may not be pleasant things and take you out of your comfort zone. Serious problems call for serious solutions.
Best Regards,
Jeff
