Have you ever wondered about the term “hooking up?” I know I have. Although you hear the term used, it’s meaning is vague.
Hooking up covers a range of behaviors from connecting someone with a good or service to making out or having sex with someone. Although the urban definition is vague, when it comes to fishing, hooking up has a clear meaning.
I’ve done more fishing than mastering of urban slang. Fishing is infinitely more useful.
When fishing and you feel a bite, you want to pull the pole in such a way that you get the fish hooked. There is no good or service involved. You want them stuck, so that you can pull them up into the boat.
On hearing the term hooking up, my mind always thinks about fish and hooks. For them hooking is serious business.
When it comes to relationships, getting hooked or anything like it is also serious. In my mind, ‘hooking up’ is serious business as well.
Playing urban word games only muddies communication. When cheaters ‘hook up’, it’s a serious threat.
Hooks have barbs for a reason. The purpose is to hold onto whatever got hooked. You don’t want the hooked victim to be able to easily escape.
Relationship hooks serve the same purpose. They are designed for latching on and not letting go.
If you’ve been hooked, whether intentionally or unintentionally, the best thing you can do is get away. Fishermen have special tools for removing the entrapping hooks.
Sadly, many cheaters don’t have such tools. Once they’re hooked, they are stuck. It requires brute force and resistance in dislodging a hook.
If you’re a cheater looking for ways of getting out of an unwanted trap, there’s hope. In the video “Help for the Cheater: Starting the Road to Recovery“, I address this.
There are ways of turning your situation around. Like the hooked fish, those ways require effort. Regaining freedom always requires effort. You’re better off with the spouse you know than whoever is trying to hook up with you.
Nothing in this Work is intended to replace common sense, legal, medical or other professional advice. If your situation warrants it, please seek competent professional counsel.